Miss Red High Heals

Miss Red High Heals 👠Empowering You to Move TF on from The Narcissist
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08/25/2026

Girls, I need us to stop requiring courtroom-level evidence before we decide a man is not worth the risk.

If his name is on an “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” page and multiple women have stories, you do not have to wait until every detail is independently verified before deciding, “This is enough for me.”

Maybe one woman exaggerated. Maybe part of a story was misrepresented. Maybe he has an explanation.

Okay.

Why are there so many stories to explain in the first place?

We get so caught up trying to determine whether every woman’s version is 100% accurate that we miss the bigger question: How much concerning information do you actually need before you give yourself permission to walk away?

You are not a jury. You do not have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that he is a terrible person.

Dating is not a criminal trial.

You are allowed to hear something that makes you uncomfortable, recognize a pattern you don’t want anywhere near your life, and say, “Even if only part of this is true, it’s more than I’m willing to accept.”

And please stop thinking it is your job to date him long enough to figure out which woman was telling the truth.

Sometimes the red flag isn’t one specific story.

Sometimes it’s the fact that there are this many stories at all.

08/20/2026

I made the original video to be a mouthpiece for the women who have never had a safe place to tell these stories.

And the comments made one thing very clear: there are A LOT of them.

Labor is one of the most vulnerable moments of a woman’s life. You shouldn’t also have to manage a partner’s ego, anger, jealousy, comfort, or need for attention while you’re bringing a human being into the world.

If you experienced this, you’re allowed to tell your story here. ❤️

08/19/2026

These are the actual stories of my friends and followers who have been through labor with a narcissist. Thankfully, they are not my stories, and I am BEYOND glad they aren’t. The women sharing these stories have either commented them on my previous post or inboxed me to remain anonymous. All of their hopes are that they can share their stories so that someone else does have to go through what they went through. The message is this: please find the courage to leave the narcissist before you have a baby with them. If you need help, message me. We will work on your exit plan together. I love you all so much.

Again: These are not my stories.

08/12/2026

I had a thought in the delivery room that I wasn’t expecting:

“Thank God it’s him.”

Thank God THIS is the man beside me. Thank God THIS is the father of my child.

Because I know what it feels like to love someone who would have somehow made one of the most vulnerable moments of my life about them.

And after hearing some of the stories the nurses told me about what they’ve witnessed in delivery rooms… whew. 😳

Having a baby with the right person made me realize just how different this experience could have been.

So I want to open up the conversation:

If you had a baby with a narcissist or toxic partner, what was your labor and delivery experience like? Did they support you—or somehow make YOUR labor about THEM?

I have a feeling some of these stories are going to be wild.

👇 Tell me your delivery room story. You never know who needs to hear it and realize, “Wait… that wasn’t normal.”

06/09/2026

You don’t miss them. You miss the version of yourself that was allowed to believe fantasy; you miss the version you were before the irrefutable evidence.

05/02/2026

How many of you have a rule book you’re following when it comes to dating? How many of you have a checklist you feel like you have to follow? Some of you may need those things because you have a track record of horrible relationships that you just can’t seem to stay away from and your intuition seems nonexistent.

But some of you are leaning into your intuition and taking your time dating to find the right one. If you want to lean into that intuition and trust yourself, know that your relationships with others are not all equal and that there is no “timeline” that a true connection must follow. Lean in and dance your own dance. Trust that you know the steps without choreography.

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05/01/2026

Not allowing a person to disrespect you is not “mean.” Read that again.

04/08/2026

We’ve been told our whole lives that real love is something you have to fight for. And we’ve been taught that when things get hard, we’re meant to stay, push through, and prove our loyalty.

We don’t talk enough about how often that phrase is misused, abused, and used to manipulate us in relationships. What about when those “hard times” you’re fighting through are being created by the person who is asking you to stay?

We need to discuss the difference between a relationship going through a storm due to life circumstances and one where one person is the storm. If you’re constantly confused, constantly questioning yourself, constantly trying to “get it right” so things can finally feel peaceful, that is not an example of love growing.

You are slowly being conditioned to tolerate what you once knew you deserved better than. And you don’t even realize it’s happening. You just think: “I just have to try harder, and we’ll be okay.”

It’s not okay to be married to the storm; don’t weather it for a lifetime.

Don’t.

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03/12/2026

Someone asked me a really thoughtful question in my comments: How do you tell the difference between someone who is struggling… and someone who is manipulating you?”

The truth is: it’s not always obvious.

People who are hurting can still behave in manipulative ways. AND manipulators often hide behind vulnerability.

The difference usually shows up in patterns:

• Someone who is struggling will eventually show accountability
• Someone who is manipulating will usually shift blame or control the narrative

Understanding the difference can completely change how you set boundaries and protect your peace.

Have you ever had a moment where you realized someone wasn’t truly struggling and was using manipulation to achieve their goal?

👇 I’m curious: What is your experience?

03/06/2026

A lot of people who wind up in toxic relationships don’t realize that their partner seems so familiar because they grew up with a version of them in their very own household.

Sometimes a soulmate isn’t truly a soulmate.

Sometimes we call toxicity love because we always have.

Life may be more painful if we call it what it really is.

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