08/25/2026
Day 25 of SMA Awareness Month
Help
You can ask anyone that knows me and they will tell you I’m as stubborn as they come. I’ve always took pride in being independent. I’m a problem solver, a goal seeker, and competitive to a fault. Nothing makes me more uncomfortable than admitting I need help. It makes me feel weak and at times it’s almost even humiliating.
Then... Delanie was diagnosed.
Talk about a learning curve. I went from “I’m going to be #1 Mom” to “I gave my perfect child a debilitating genetic disease with no cure”. Slap in the face. A wake up call. A stab in the back. I went from thinking I was capable of figuring anything and everything out to begging anyone to save us both.
SMA has humbled me.
Her diagnosis and medical bills nearly wiped us out within the first few months. I had to leave my job to care for her and we were down to one income. For weeks people beg for me to let them know how to help us, but my pride wouldn’t let me accept help. A few more weeks past, a few more failed tests, and still no guarantee of treatments. There was no way we were going to make it on our own. I felt undeserving, embarrassed, and so disappointment in myself... but Delanie needed more help than I could give her. Since then we have been blessed by countless people that have stepped up and helped us with donations, fundraising events, meals, prayers and unconditional love. We would not be able to continue the fight without everyone that has helped us along the way.
There is no reward for being #1 Mom. There is no prize for doing it all alone—it’s just lonely. There is no shame in asking for help. Everyone needs help. Some of us need it more than others. I used to think needing help made me weak, but honestly it makes us so much stronger. It builds bonds, friendships, and community. It unites us in a greater cause. So for everyone that has played a part in “helping” us through this journey, know we value you. We appreciate you. We are grateful for you. With every tiny improvement, we are so blessed that we get to share them with everyone who has helped us along the way.