05/18/2026
When did you last feel genuinely moved by a client — and did you let them know?
Karen Pando-Mars invites us to consider what happens when we allow ourselves to be truly affected. Not swept away — but present, open, real. That visibility isn’t a boundary violation. For many clients who grew up with emotionally absent caregivers, it may be the most corrective thing we offer.
Managed neutrality can feel safe. But the client whose attachment history taught them they were too much, too needy, too intense — that client needs to see that they matter to us. That they land.
What do you notice in yourself when you let a client’s pain actually reach you?
We’re The Art of Becoming Psychotherapy — two AEDP-informed therapists offering consultation, training, and therapy rooted in attachment and relational healing. Follow along for weekly reflections on presence, trauma, and the art of becoming.
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