03/11/2026
Some thoughts after a birth that challenged us all...
Driving home from a birth as an assistant, but also like a doula because this mom had a long 30 hr journey to motherhood which needed some extra encouragement, alignment help, physical touch & massage. ❤️
Always a little happy dance when I near my group of trees after being up all night after a birth. If I look frazzled and tired, its because I was, and probably hanging on by a few brain cells at that point lol. 😴
I always value being a birth assistant, thankful for the learning opportunities it provides into my growing birthwork experience. And as a doula, providing care and support to clients who become like friends. Some births are straight-forward, quick, and complication-free which make me question if I was of any help. And other births that take the long-way route, testing us all, needing some immediate help, which then make me question if I did everything right & how I could have done better.
Some births I've cried with joy, others I've cried with sadness or relief and deep breaths to reset my nervous system. I know I have yet to experience many many heartbreaking situations while still having experienced some really big ones so far.
Sometimes I think about what someone once said to me as I shared a bit of birth-work-life, "Why add all that stress to your life? I could never do that"
Maybe birth isn't for everyone. Or maybe we've been conditioned to think that way to further disconnect us from eachother... imagine if everyone supported births together!? (now that's a convo for another day, I'm getting side tracked 🙃)
But it's not the stress, it's about experiencing life, big deep emotions and all. And birth is one of those very big life moments I am honored to support.
Getting to observe and assist 's thorough experience & calm care for another frank breech birth always amazes me. And supporting alongside .helweg always inspires me with her wisdom and knowledge as a seasoned doula. I admire both of your knowledge! ❤️
A bit adhd with my thoughts. But that's kind of how my brain works anyways. Now time for a deep restful sleep.😴 💗