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You are not to blame for the abuse you experienced. Abusers are always 100% accountable for their own abusive behaviors....
06/04/2026

You are not to blame for the abuse you experienced. Abusers are always 100% accountable for their own abusive behaviors.

New Series: You Are Not Alone (Understanding Survivors’ Experiences)Survivors of abusive relationships often face experi...
06/02/2026

New Series: You Are Not Alone (Understanding Survivors’ Experiences)

Survivors of abusive relationships often face experiences that are confusing and, at times, difficult to talk about. Today, we’re kicking off a new series in which, over the next several weeks, we will explore several common yet often under-recognized aspects of survivors’ experiences.

Of course, every survivor’s journey is unique, so keep in mind these will be examples of just some of the possible abuse-related experiences that might occur. If you’re a survivor or a supporter of a survivor, be mindful of the wide variation of experiences that can arise during and after abusive relationships, and consider what does and does not resonate with your individual experiences.

Today, we’re starting with a focus on one of these experiences, victim-blaming, which can come from others, from society, and even from internalized feelings of self-blame. Victim-blaming shifts responsibility away from the person who caused harm and places it onto survivors, which can add to feelings of shame, confusion, and isolation.

Remember: Victims and survivors are not to blame for the abuse they experienced. Abusers are always 100% accountable for their own abusive behaviors.

Let’s continue to support ourselves, one another, and our communities until there is an end to victim-blaming and greater accountability being placed on abusers for the harm they inflict on others.

Healthy Relationships as a Survivor of an Abusive Relationship: Series ConclusionAbusive relationships can shape how you...
05/28/2026

Healthy Relationships as a Survivor of an Abusive Relationship: Series Conclusion

Abusive relationships can shape how you think, feel, and respond in other relationships. You may notice that your experiences in the abusive relationship have impacted your trust in others, your expectations, or how you connect with others. Even if this is the case, safe and healthy relationships are still possible for you.

As you move forward, it can be helpful to reflect on what healthy relationships mean to you and what qualities matter most. You may also continue to build skills and awareness that support stronger, more positive connections. Understanding how past experiences have impacted you can help you make more intentional choices in your relationships going forward.

Focusing your time and energy on relationships that feel respectful, supportive, and safe can be a powerful part of healing. This also includes the relationship you have with yourself. As you continue to grow, you can bring greater clarity, intention, and care into the connections you choose to build and maintain.

Bringing Your Best Self to Your RelationshipsAs you move forward in your healing journey, you may begin to notice ways y...
05/26/2026

Bringing Your Best Self to Your Relationships

As you move forward in your healing journey, you may begin to notice ways your experiences have shaped how you show up in relationships. While abusive relationships can take a significant toll, the growth and insight you gain along your healing journey can also support you in building healthier, more intentional connections.

Understanding what you have been through can help you recognize your needs, values, and limits more clearly. Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries can protect your well-being and create space for more respectful interactions. Taking time to process difficult emotions can help you respond thoughtfully rather than react in ways that do not align with who you want to be.

Practicing self-care and continuing to build your relationship skills can also strengthen your ability to connect with others in meaningful ways. Each step you take toward healing supports your ability to show up with greater clarity, confidence, and care.

Bringing your best self to your relationships is not about being perfect. It is about being intentional, growing over time, and creating connections that reflect your values and support your well-being.

Making New (Healthy) Friendships in AdulthoodBuilding friendships in adulthood can feel very different from childhood. L...
05/21/2026

Making New (Healthy) Friendships in Adulthood

Building friendships in adulthood can feel very different from childhood. Life is often busier, and trust may take more time to develop, especially after experiences of abuse. Even so, meaningful and supportive friendships are still possible and can play an important role in your healing journey.

Take a moment to reflect on your current friendships. Do they feel supportive and fulfilling? You may feel content with a small circle, or you may find yourself wanting to build new connections. Wherever you are, your preferences are valid.

If you are open to expanding your friendships, consider where you might meet people who share your interests or values. This could be through classes, community groups, volunteering, faith communities, or other activities you enjoy. Small steps, like starting a conversation or reconnecting with someone you trust, can gradually lead to deeper connections.

Healthy friendships are built over time. By approaching new relationships with patience, intention, and awareness of your needs, you can create connections that feel safe, supportive, and meaningful.

Identifying Relationship Caution FlagsAs you build new relationships, it can be helpful to stay aware of early signs tha...
05/19/2026

Identifying Relationship Caution Flags

As you build new relationships, it can be helpful to stay aware of early signs that something may not feel quite right. These caution flags do not always mean a relationship is unsafe, but they can be important signals to slow down, set boundaries, and pay closer attention.

Take time to reflect on behaviors or patterns that would give you pause. For example, someone may share very personal information too quickly, push for closeness before trust is built, or dismiss your feelings or boundaries. These experiences can offer valuable insight as you get to know someone over time.

Learning to recognize your own caution flags can help you move forward with greater awareness and confidence. Allow yourself to take your time, ask questions, and choose relationships that feel safe and respectful to you.

Focusing on the Healthy Relationships in Your LifeAbusive relationships can take up a great deal of time, energy, and em...
05/14/2026

Focusing on the Healthy Relationships in Your Life

Abusive relationships can take up a great deal of time, energy, and emotional space. Because of this, it can be easy for them to overshadow the healthier, more supportive relationships in your life. Intentionally shifting your focus back toward those positive connections can be an important part of healing.

Take a moment to reflect on the people in your life who offer care, respect, and support. What do you appreciate about those relationships? How do they make you feel? You might also notice ways that past or ongoing abuse has made it harder to fully enjoy or trust these connections.

As you continue your healing journey, consider small steps you can take to nurture these healthy relationships. This might include reaching out more often, expressing appreciation, or creating space to build new supportive connections.

Focusing on healthy relationships does not erase the impact of abuse, but it can help bring more balance, support, and encouragement into your life as you move toward healing.

Self-awareness plays an important role in building healthy relationships. Even when you have strong insight into yoursel...
05/12/2026

Self-awareness plays an important role in building healthy relationships. Even when you have strong insight into yourself, there may still be areas that are harder to see clearly. These blind spots can influence how you show up in relationships without you fully realizing it.

One way to increase awareness is to notice patterns. If you find that similar conflicts or challenges show up across different relationships, this may offer clues about areas to explore more deeply. Reflecting on these patterns can help you better understand your responses, habits, and communication styles.

You might also consider seeking feedback from people you trust. Asking for their perspective with openness and curiosity can provide valuable insight. Listening without becoming defensive can make it easier to learn and grow.

As you become more aware of potential blind spots, view them as opportunities for growth rather than flaws. Small, intentional changes can help you strengthen your relationships and move toward more positive and supportive connections.

Taking time to reflect on your own values can help you decide how you want to show up in your relationships. You might c...
05/07/2026

Taking time to reflect on your own values can help you decide how you want to show up in your relationships. You might consider what positive qualities you want to bring, such as honesty, respect, patience, or kindness, as well as what behaviors you want to avoid. These personal commitments can serve as a steady guide, even when others are not acting in ways that align with your values.

Living by your own standards can help you build a sense of integrity and consistency in your relationships. If you find that you fall short in a difficult moment, try to respond with self-compassion and reflection rather than harsh self-judgment. Each experience can be an opportunity to learn and move closer to the kind of relationship patterns you want to create in your life.

Conflict is a natural part of human relationships, including healthy ones. When people bring different perspectives and ...
05/05/2026

Conflict is a natural part of human relationships, including healthy ones. When people bring different perspectives and experiences into a relationship, disagreements can happen. Learning to navigate conflict in respectful, constructive ways can help strengthen your relationships over time.

One helpful approach is to stay grounded in your own values. You may choose to avoid harsh language, name-calling, or escalating behaviors, even if the other person does not do the same.

Focusing on one issue at a time can also help keep conflicts from becoming overwhelming or unproductive.

When possible, aim for outcomes that feel respectful and workable for everyone involved. Healthy conflict is not about winning or losing. It is about understanding and finding a way forward that honors each person’s needs.

After conflict, take time to reflect and reconnect if the relationship is safe and supportive. If patterns of harm or disrespect continue within a particular relationship, it may be important to set boundaries or reconsider the role of that relationship in your life, which might mean ending it altogether.

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