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Beside Death, Life Death Doula offering Concierge Support for those living like they are dying or already dead inside

04/08/2026

BE KIND TO YOURSELF
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How would you treat someone if you considered that they were you? I grew up with that saying, treat others as you would want to be treated, but not everyone likes my sense of humor! Haha. I think this approach hits different. Try practicing: everyone you encounter is YOU. Different plane, parallel life, or just made of the same cosmic stuff, whatever angle works for you. When you are being mean to someone you are being mean to yourself… I find it has helped me find a more peaceful baseline from which to operate from.
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It is a practice! I struggle with it! But, I do feel like it’s working! Check out short story THE EGG by Andy Weir illustrated on the YouTube channel ~
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Don’t mind my TikTok filter play here, I do like myself in real life! I’ll be damned if the camera isn’t cruel sometimes so, I’m having a little fun with it, don’t hate or do, but WHAT IF I’M YOU?

03/08/2026

BORN INTO LOSS II
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As death care professionals working with people through the end-of-life we may encounter secrets or stories of loss previously withheld. The loss of a child is perhaps the greatest loss? Whether working with a bereaved parent, sibling, or the subsequent child (the real meat of this book) having some understanding of family systems, birth order dynamics, and grief work is imperative.
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READ: Born Into Loss by Sarah Reed Vollman & Joann M. O’Leary ~ The More You Know, Reading 🌈

02/08/2026

THE DANGERS OF CLAIMING TO KNOW
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This will be my last post on the Carolyn Elliott story (cut from yesterday), but it’s not really about her as much as it is her su***de; I’m speaking on the dark & thirsty Coaching and MLM, Cult Influencers out there and how selling a “truth” can put your life at risk. They want you, they want you bad, but they are getting you with lies. Lies promising wealth, success, happiness etc. Carolyn made a post not long before she died explaining to her fans that she had in fact lied to them, that her subscription base nearly zeroed out after a dramatic stint of success, and that her new angle would be not lying…
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After my deep dive on her story I dug further asking “Why does Life Coaching seem like the new cult?” And I was astounded at the amount of search results confirming this link. Did you know most of those motivational ads you see on IG are linked to MOMS?! I don’t know what you spend your Saturdays doing but this girl is a research nerd. I finished up in the evening watching a couple of documentaries on YouTube channel ~ A woman that left behind a top 1% MLM position to expose what’s happening behind the scenes. Folks like author of LET THEM, Mel Robbins, and that megachurch Hillsong preacher dude, PAY ATTENTION!
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I have a client that co-founded a cult (not cult to him) where CEOs & CFOs pay membership dues to party in the same room together while stages host motivational speakers etc. His reported hallow and meaningless life has yet to be a reason to leave. He can’t have relationships because he can’t not lie!
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PLEASE DON’T DRINK THE KOOLAID ~ It’s way cooler to forever be seeking the answers. The minute you stop questioning what you are told, that is death. Ok I’m finished this is what I look like two weeks battling a cold; being thin not always hot ahaha especially as we age 😭👌🎉

01/08/2026

GUIDE VS. “LIFE COACH”
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As a Doula and a Mother I am a GUIDE. I recall my first child being born and exclaiming to myself HOLY S**T at the weight of the responsibility ~ In that moment I understood my place in her life would NOT be one of KNOWING, but one of GUIDANCE as she made her way out into the world.
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The role of a Doula is presence and I don’t buy these companies selling virtual Doula support. Can you be of help remotely, sure, but only if you’ve already been with them in person. DON’T BUY THE BULLS**T GUYS.

01/08/2026

❌ FALLACY OF A LIFE COACH ❌
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No one but you has the answers to your life. DO NOT BUY the program, the workshop, the book that says they do. No Life Coach or Guru or author has the answers. IT’S YOU, YOU HAVE THE ANSWERS. A guide is someone who helps reorientate you to your path when you are lost.
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Went on this rant after going down a rabbit hole last night on the su***de of Life Coach, Esoteric Guru, Author Carolyn Elliot. Posting a Part 2 to this rant right now.
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Dropping an art short I made on this very subject in the comments. Go watch it.

31/07/2026

👶 BORN INTO GRIEF 👶
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PART 1 ~ Cuz I’m a long form girl in a short form world. Death of a child not only affects the parents but too the surviving siblings and perhaps most especially the “subsequent child” or a child born following the death of a child. Fascinating read; well-documented research on how parent’s grief determines a subsequent child’s mental health and core sense of self.
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The research of the importance and implications of a mother’s mental health on her pregnancy is well-housed by The Association of Pre snd Perinatal Health APPPAH - Birth Psychology if you’re interested in diving in. I HIGHLY recommend this organization.
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In PART 2 ~ we’ll have a quick chat about why this matters for those working in Death or End-of-Life Care!

30/07/2026

📊 F**K THE SYSTEM 📊
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I’m not playing a numbers game. There is evidence it largely doesn’t work for the individual. It’s time to sacrifice. As a family member, a friend, a mother or father. Y’all got yer panties in a wad over my Lisa Frank colored (thank you Charon’s Lantern ) poster, GOOD, got your attention and it sounds like we’ve got some disregulated nervous systems, a lot of work to do.
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If you are interested in changing the conversation around su***de and living like you’re dying with addiction whether it be alcohol, prescription or street drugs, eating disorders, workaholics ETC. FOLLOW ALONG. I’m not being easy with this anymore, I’m here to shake s**t up by SHOWing UP.
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BESIDE DEATH, IS YOUR LIFE ~ HOW YOU GOING TO LIVE IT?
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Love you mean it. And yeah I used a crazy filter this morning my cold has me not even able to look at myself why force that on you 🤣😘

Living like you’re dying? Already dead inside? Living with alcohol or substance use? Eating disorders? Extreme lonelines...
29/07/2026

Living like you’re dying? Already dead inside? Living with alcohol or substance use? Eating disorders? Extreme loneliness? Depression? Book your 1:1 call with me now! BESIDE DEATH IS YOUR LIFE ~ HOW ARE YOU LIVING IT?

29/07/2026

🚨 !NO PUNISHMENT! 🚨
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Support without coercion or punishment is termed NON-CARCERAL. You can share with me your darkest side without fear of judgement or pressure to feel differently. Suicidal ideation is more common than you’d think, but it is kept as secret out of fear. Too, the real real on our alcohol and substance use, including prescription drugs, and even the severity of our eating habits is shrouded in shame. Like death, these topics are taboo and the only way to give them light is allowing them to breathe.
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If you are not feeling safe your nervous system is in constant fight or flight mode. I’ve added appointment booking capabilities to the link in my bio ^^ reach out, I’m here with you as Peer Support.
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