06/01/2021
🌈 When you come out as bis*xual in your thirties, you get the question of “How did you not know before now?”
It’s not that I didn’t know, it’s that I didn’t embrace it and talk about it until my thirties.
Looking back, I knew deep down that I was q***r as a teen, I just tried to ignore it.
I knew in my twenties, but was told it was just a phase, or that girls claimed to be bi just to get attention.
My family didn’t know.
My friends probably didn’t know either.
I only ever actually dated men, and only told the men I was dating.
But my bis*xuality wasn’t accepted by most of the men I dated, it was fetishized.
“Let’s have a th*****me, but don’t wear that outfit because it makes you look like a lesbian.”
My bis*xuality was only encouraged if it was also benefiting them s*xually.
This led to even more confusion, suppression, and just piled onto my already existing s*xual trauma.
But there’s more to being q***r than just who you have s*x with. Embracing my s*xuality has allowed me to feel more comfortable with also embracing the feminine and masculine sides of myself, especially with how I dress. To feel ok with dressing a bit more androgynous sometimes. Something I didn’t feel comfortable doing until my thirties.
So yeah, I’m in a straight-passing relationship with a man, but I am bis*xual, and my bis*xuality is valid.
Idk, I just feel like there’s someone that needs to hear this.
It doesn’t matter what your story is, who you’ve dated, or when you realized it, if you’re q***r, you’re q***r. Your s*xuality is valid. Embrace it however you feel fit for you.
Happy Pride, y’all. 🌈❤️
