10/09/2026
Her first day back at work was coming. Her baby had never taken a bottle.
One week later, he’s taking up to 3 oz. 🍼 Here’s exactly how we got there, step by step, so you can see how the process works.
1️⃣ Find the WHY first
Bottle refusal has a lot of possible causes: the flow, the ni**le shape, tension in the body, a sensitive mouth, or a skill your baby hasn’t learned yet. Each one needs a different fix. For him, it was two things: the roof of his mouth was sensitive, and he didn’t know how to seal his lips around a bottle.
2️⃣ Choose the bottle for YOUR baby’s mouth
Not the most popular one, and not the one with the best packaging. We switched to a bottle that was easier for his mouth to latch onto. The right bottle is whichever one fits how your baby’s mouth actually works.
3️⃣ Watch where the ni**le lands
If your baby gags or pulls back the moment the ni**le touches the roof of their mouth, angle it down so it rests on the tongue instead. We didn’t have time to make his palate more comfortable before mom went back to work, so we worked around it first. *we will be working on his palate alongside this plan*
4️⃣ Support the latch
Some babies need help learning to hold a seal. I helped him round his lips onto the bottle and gave gentle cheek and chin support while he figured it out.
5️⃣ Match the flow to your baby
For him, a medium flow worked because milk came right away and rewarded him fast, so he stayed interested. Another baby might need a slower flow to stay comfortable. Your baby’s why decides this one.
6️⃣ Practice when your baby is happy, not hungry
We started with little bonus feeds during playtime and wake windows. If he turned away or got upset, we stopped and tried again later. Never forced, and never taking away nursing.
7️⃣ Move the bottle into real feeds
Once the bottle felt good, it moved into his actual feeds: bottle first for as long as he’s happy, then finishing at the breast. Over time, that bottle will fully replace a breastfeed.
If you’re going back to work in the next few months, start this process well before that date so your baby has room to learn without pressure.