06/16/2026
This was me Sunday night.
After a completely overstimulating, nonstop weekend, I was so ready to get in bed and have the best sleep of my life.
Except⌠that is not what happened.
I got to bed late, felt absolutely wrecked, and instead of sleeping deeply, my body felt like it never fully settled.
And this is the part I wish more women understood about perimenopause sleep: being exhausted is not the same as being relaxed.
When estrogen and progesterone start fluctuating, sleep can become lighter and more fragile. Add in a packed weekend, late bedtime, overstimulation, scrolling, alcohol, stress, or pushing past your natural sleepy window, and your cortisol can stay elevated when your body should be downshifting.
So by the time you finally get into bed, your body is tired - but your nervous system is still activated.
The goal is not to push yourself until you crash.
The goal is to help your body downshift before you ever get into bed.
Less stimulation at night.
Less âone more thing.â
Less scrolling through exhaustion.
More listening to that first wave of tired.
Because in perimenopause, better sleep isnât just about being more tired.
Itâs about giving your body a clear signal that itâs safe to rest.
Part 3 is about night sweats, hot wakeups, and why estrogen/progesterone shifts can make sleep feel impossible.
Which one is more you right now: trouble falling asleep, waking up too early, or waking up hot/sweaty?