10/13/2026
Although I very much love my husband, we went through a period where we were both disappointed in each other and in our relationship. I wanted certain things he wasn’t giving me and he probably felt the same about me. I began having second thoughts about whether or not we could actually make this work. I didn’t want it to end but I was seriously unhappy and didn’t know what to do. So I prayed to God. He heard my concerns and addressed them immediately. This was the message He spoke to me verbatim:
“Stop trying to fix him. He’s not broken. See him through my eyes and love him as I love him. Whatever he cannot or will not give you come to me and I will provide.”
In that moment, I surrendered to God’s directives and began seeing my husband as the incredibly beautiful man he already is. I decided to remove all expectations of who I wanted him to be and do, to appreciate him exactly as he is, and for whatever needs I perceived to be lacking I would petition God as He instructed.
Slowly and with intention, I began to transition from disappointed spouse to grateful wife. And miraculously, the greater my obedience to my Lord, the greater the transformation in my marriage. I can honestly say, as we celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary today, that God indeed sent me exactly who I was meant to spend my life with. For in this marriage, I have come to deepen my relationship with Father God, to rely more on Him and less on others, and to follow without question or hesitation what He requests of me. “Thy will be done”, not mine. And in my faithfulness, He continually blesses me more than I deserve. I am truly and deeply grateful for the gift of my husband of 30 years, Ken “Mac” MacDougall.
The way to unconditional love is to readjust or eliminate all expectations, and to abstain from all comparisons and judgements of others. These are the greatest roadblocks to absolute love. See others through the eyes of God and therein you will see His perfect creation. Accept and Appreciate.