08/21/2026
I am happy to officially introduce, Onyx. 🖤
Since losing Jack, there has been an unmistakable space in our pasture. We have sincerely appreciated the love, time, and space to mourn. Horses leave a place that will always belong only to them, but this tremendous loss also asked us to consider carefully what came next for Iris, for me, and for the beautiful women who choose the work of Summit Acres Wellness by Ginny LaPrairie
Then came Onyx. My new friend Kathy Castro at The Santana Center told us she knew the perfect horse for us, and boy, was she right. Onyx is a gorgeous and kind 14-year-old Dutch Harness gelding, and we are incredibly grateful to Kathy and the wonderful team at the Santana Center for the way they pour into their horses, know them so well, and understood what we were looking for even before we met him.
There was another part of that decision that mattered deeply to me: the horse we chose also needed the opportunity to choose us. That is fundamental to the way I approach equine-assisted work because partnership isn't something we simply decide on behalf of the horse. Onyx was given the opportunity to engage, step away, come back, investigate, and communicate, and we paid attention. He continued to choose connection, and in those first interactions, we saw his willingness to enter into relationship with us, too.
Onyx is incredibly kind and steady without being passive. He is expressive, responsive, curious, and present, with boundaries and opinions of his own. Those qualities are incredibly valuable in the work we do with women because they allow relationship to remain a conversation rather than becoming an exercise in compliance.
With Onyx, a woman may have the opportunity to discover that she can hold a boundary without becoming harsh, take up space without using force, make a clear request without apologizing, and respect another being's “no” without experiencing it as rejection. He is kind enough to create trust while remaining responsive enough to ask us to notice how we are showing up, and that balance is a large part of why he felt so right for this work.
Iris brings her own sensitivity, wisdom, and unique way of meeting people. Onyx doesn't replace what Jack brought, and he doesn't duplicate what Iris offers. I am taking time to learn this new herd dynamic and appreciate its own gifts, because Onyx brings something entirely his own.
As I watch the relationship between Iris and Onyx develop and continue building my own relationship with him, I can see the shape of what comes next: three different beings bringing three different strengths to a shared purpose of helping women reconnect with themselves, build capacity, nourish what has been depleted, and move forward with greater clarity and trust in themselves.
We weren't looking for a horse who would simply do whatever was asked of him. We were looking for a partner who was steady enough to create trust, sensitive enough to notice, expressive enough to communicate, and kind enough to stay in conversation. Kathy believed Onyx could be that horse for us, and we are so grateful that she was right.
Onyx still gets to settle in, deepen his relationship with Iris, and continue showing us who he is. His role in this work will grow from relationship, choice, and trust.
Jack helped begin this story and his place in it will always belong to him. After a season of tremendous change, it feels deeply meaningful to look toward what comes next with gratitude for everything that brought us here and say, welcome home, Onyx. 🖤
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