12/22/2020
Did you make a New Year’s resolution last year? Can I take a guess? Was it something like…
• get in shape
• eat healthier
• cut out *insert this-is-bad-for-you food trend here*
Did I come close? A great big goal that’s majorly different from your current lifestyle?
Seriously, no shame - I’ve been there too. And I don’t have to get very far into a year for these resolutions to get put in the “ignore this” pile in my brain. 🧠 👋
I hear this from people who are smart and capable - and I do it myself - so why the big FLOP at the new year?
I figured out why: they’re too broad, too nebulous, too ambiguous.
We say things like “get in shape” with no place to start and no parameters, so we set ourselves up for failure.
➡️➡️➡️Here’s how to create a flop-proof resolution:
1️⃣ Accept it. “It’s okay for me to want ______.” In order to move toward something, you need to admit that you want it. Wanting is a good thing! Write it down, say it out loud. Quit playing hard-to-get with the universe and be okay wanting something.
2️⃣ Give up what’s in the way. “In order to get _____, I am giving up ______.” If it feels uncomfortable to give something up, that’s okay! You’re on the right track. Once you identify this, you are freeing up the space for your goal to unfold.
3️⃣ Zoom in. Way in. More, a little further, almost there… okay, you get the point. Take your idea from step one, and ask ✨how, ✨what, ✨when, ✨where, and ✨how long.
❕For example, if you want to “eat healthier,” maybe your HOW is by cooking more, your WHAT is organic foods, your WHEN is once a week, your WHERE is at home, and your HOW LONG is two months. So we’ve transformed a vague idea with loads of pressure behind it - “eat healthier” - into a very specific target with clearly identifiable parts - “home cook an all-organic meal once a week for two months.”
That’s a big CAN DO! 💪
What are your New Year’s resolutions, before and after this revision? I want to hear them!