05/27/2026
One of the biggest misconceptions about distress tolerance is that the goal is to “make feelings go away.” In DBT, that is not the goal.
Distress tolerance is about moving through difficult emotions without making the situation worse through impulsive reactions, avoidance, shutdown, aggression, or harmful coping strategies.
It is the pause before reacting.
The skill of staying grounded during hard moments.
The ability to tolerate discomfort long enough to make a wise decision instead of an impulsive one.
And these are not just adult skills.
Students use distress tolerance every day:
• navigating peer conflict
• handling frustration
• coping with disappointment
• managing anxiety before tests or presentations
• regulating emotions after social struggles or overwhelming moments
This is one of the reasons DBT skills matter so much in schools. Emotional resilience is not something students magically develop later in life. It is something that can be taught, practiced, modeled, and strengthened over time.
Skills for today. Resilience for life.
Interested in learning more about bringing DBT-informed skills into schools?
Summer open enrollment is now available for upcoming all DBT in Schools Curricula.
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