Our missions are to stop gaslighting, build capability and community, and preserve integrity. Ostracism is any act of banishing, shunning, ignoring, or excluding one person or a small group from a larger collective society with spiteful and biased intentions. It comes in many forms and levels of severity. Most of us can relate to giving or receiving the silent treatment when someone is acting out, time-outs for misbehavior, locking oneself in a room after an argument, hanging up the phone in mid-conversation, or ending a friendship or relationship and those actions can be healthy and are not necessarily bullying. In fact, many forms of ghosting are done to protect oneself from an abusive situation, and this is not what this website or any outreach pages condemns. Forms of ostracism manifest in all areas of life such as work and schools as excommunication, banishment, or solitary confinement. Simply existing often causes unnecessary fear, hatred and disgust in those who ostracize as the ostracizers often hold an assumption that can cause harm if left unchecked and can result in unnecessary delays and hurt existing relationships, including to but not limited to the following:
-A planned mass social media blocking/enlisting flying monkeys with the intent of alienating and isolating a target, putting them at risk of wandering into a dangerous circle
-Hoovering (a vague behavior to get attention where one moment it's love, the next it's a breakup, then they're back together, love/hate, unclear wishy washy behavior with the intent of confusing a person in the name of being "clear" but not clear, causes disorientation in the survivor)
-Dry "I was just joking why you mad" pranks with no explanation as a means of ending a relationship
-Fake "concern" about someone's health for setting a boundary
-Fake accountability to gain sympathy/dodge personal responsibility
-Witness tampering/hoovering by proxy
-Rage-baiting
-False police reports/SWATting pranks
-Meritless lawsuits
-Firing someone before later conceding and reinstating the person
-Medical leaves as a form of gaslighting (this does not mean we should prohibit all medically necessary leaves, eg a pregnancy, officer shot etc.)
-Emotional blackmail and then claiming the person was ostracized and bullied themselves/feigning "distress" to make the target appear crazy and obsessed
-Pearl-clutching
-Gang-stalking
-Profiling (doesn't have to be race)/monitoring someone harmless, doesn't mean being on the vulnerable persons registry is necessarily a bad thing!
-Claiming a no-trespass was issued when no formal process was done through police to target someone harmless
-Claiming a restraining order was filed when no lawsuit occurred to target someone harmless
-Violating a restraining order and blaming the survivor
-Slut shaming someone trying to escape sex slavery (this does not mean we encourage sex work and only limit our services to people who don't want to be prostitites, we regard sex work as patriarchal and not truly standing up to abusive male behavior)/other forms of blaming the survivor with false "harassment" reports
-Gossip behind someone's back
-Making a public untrue claim and starting mass hysteria/promoting conspiracy theories
-DSM-itis/fake diagnoses to target someone innocent with highly stigmatized conditions (eg claiming someone is a "narcissist" without consulting a licensed professional when really they're an empath with strong and clear boundaries)
This can be a tool to blacklist the innocent out of fear of being sued if the ADL were to find out and leave them with no explanation and while we are not advising people to stay in abusive connections nor explain to someone abusive that you are making a silent exit, this can manifest in the above toxic behaviors. And so we need to clarify what abuse is to ensure that hoaxes do not target anyone seeking refuge here and that is targeted unwelcome behavior that has caused someone reasonable to feel unsafe or that they are trapped in a hostile environment. It can happen online or in-person. There is no call for an actually unsafe environment and the gaslighting tactic used by those who ostracize is rooted in dishonesty. Implicit biases and/or mental illnesses that have paranoia as a symptom can drive the bully to think their target is "unsafe" or "distressing" when no threat was made. This is why it is common for this page to call out conspiracy theories about Israel, as this is both implicit bias and mass hysteria. Feelings of safety must be rooted in reality in order for them to be taken seriously, and these biases can lead to authorities dismissing genuinely valid complaints and put survivors at risk of retaliation, or worse, death. While an invitation to a social event and/or relationships are not protected under equality law and can be done as a manner of self-preservation, vaguely excluding people and ghosting them for who they are can be hurtful and cause prolonged and severe depression, fostering feelings of loneliness and feeling like a burden, and in severe cases, cause the gaslighter to exert power and control by the ghosted questioning their sanity. Gaslighters always seek to control other people, and we can counteract gaslighting by controlling our own reactions and recommending resources. Although the emotional wounds are not visible to the naked eye, they can be more painful and longer lasting than physical wounds. This is why including the innocent is what we do. A common tactic is DARVO-ing, like described in this paragraph to maintain control over the innocent people they fear and hate. Neglect is one of the prime ingredients to push someone feeling rejected by society into choosing to enact revenge and that is not the mission of our page. We choose instead to unite various groups and so far have managed to:
-Charge 24 teleharassment suspects in connection to a "twin flames universe" cult located in Stoneham
-Unite opposing political viewpoints and encourage bipartisan connections
-Keep history undistorted and ensure that our page was not twisted by terrorists to fit an anti-Israel agenda
-Use existing movies and TV shows to foster creativity, maintain free speech in indie voices and encourage people to make art out of their suffering
-Offer healthy tools of coping with rejection if it is in fact not ostracism (a breakup, an unrequited crush) while validating feelings as well as not enable toxic ways of coping with rejection
-Deny complaints from cults who could prey on the ostracized and manipulate them into becoming someone awful, namely "Twin Flames Universe" and instead consistently preaching feelings of healthy self-worth so that the rejected can rebuild their confidence and keep going. We have also taken complaints about the Church of Scientology, Jeffrey Epstein's cult and there's no limit on what cult we can expose as all cult leaders intentionally gaslight their members, so we do hope to be a safe haven in case someone is ostracized for leaving a cult and might feel judged for the brainwashing they endured
-Recommended resources for those *actually* facing profiling and ostracization
-Sought qualified advice on the psychology of an ostracizer as well as the ostracized to give tools to combat the toxic behavior
Remember that everyone has worth. We hope we have inspired those on this page and may God bless anyone who reads it.
