01/06/2022
I am strike that. I was the together friend, sister colleague, partner, daughter. The girl with her s**t together.
I love helping people. I love showing up for my people. I relished being the self-appointed “together friend” and therein lies the problem.
I took on this persona of being the one who has it all together because that version of me is far more palatable than the one who is broken. Confused. Depressed. Negative. Anxious. Hopeless, with more questions than answers.
We’re told those layers make us weak and unattractive. They make others uncomfortable. Hell, they make ourselves uncomfortable. So it is best to only show our “shiny bits:
So I got so used to masking my messing layers. Thinking it was making me stronger. When it fact It was making me more fragile because I didn’t know how to deal with these feelings when they arose.
For those times when I didn’t have it all together, I took my cues from that well-known phrase we’ve all been served up a thousand and one (and then some) times.
“Fake it till you make it”
We get told when your start a new job, skill, hobby, parenthood, fake it til you make it.
Well, what if MAKING IT was just taking the steps to do the thing.
& we embrace the fact that it’s going to be a messy journey. Full of failings, learnings and victories. There is nothing wrong with that. It’s just the process.
Plus, who determines when we’ve “made it” and are we are no longer a “fake”?
The bar will always be pushed higher and higher as we accomplish new steps and move on to the next level. It’s a never-ending cycle that breeds imposter syndrome. More on that to come another time. For now, hear this
I’m unsubscribing from the “fake it, til you make it” narrative and urging you to do the same.
Let’s discuss
Weds 22nd June
Twice as Nourished: The Messy Middle Supper Club
Time: 7 pm - 10 pm
Location: E8 2NG
The night’s conversation and celebration will be guided by: + +
With a sumptuous four-course plant-based dinner and drinks specially curated by
Tickets: £125
PWYC options available
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