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23/06/2023

Excerpt from “Survive & Thrive! Your Step-by-Step Guide to Peace and Freedom From the NPD/Gaslighting Relationship in Your Life”
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PTSD = Damage to Your Self-Worth
You stare at yourself in the mirror, and you don’t recognize this person. Nothing or no one would care to tell you what to do anymore, and the black rings under your eyes tell a story of crying millions of tears. There must be a reason he treats you the way he does. In the beginning, he wasn’t like this. Your relationship was different. Why do you pick fights? Why rub him the wrong way? You know he will yell, you will raise your voice, you both will accuse one another, and nothing ever gets solved. Is it your fault he abuses you? Do you push him over the edge? Abuse from narcissists can devastate your sense of self-worth, because it is a sort of indoctrination.
You tell lies to those closest to you because you don’t trust them, and you can’t allow them to see what you turned into. You don’t have enough space to carry all the humiliation and embarrassment on your shoulders.

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18/06/2023

Excerpt from “Survive & Thrive! Your Step-by-Step Guide to Peace and Freedom From the NPD/Gaslighting Relationship in Your Life”
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~ I’ve felt this way. Have you? ~
Some mornings, I have woken up wondering why I just don’t die. I feel helpless and hopeless. My abuser doesn’t think I’m good enough, my family wants nothing to do with me, and even my friends are tired of my ups and downs, the drama, and the hours of trying to dry my tears—just to hear I’m going back to him. Everybody gave up on me, so why shouldn’t I? Some days, I get so anxious when he doesn’t answer my calls, puts his phone off, or doesn’t come home. I immediately want to cry because I just know he is going to leave me, too. How worthless am I, as a person if my abuser even abandons me?
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15/06/2023

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PTSD—Toxic Alphabet Soup

After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go on permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment. –Judith Lewis Herman

When we are mistreated by narcissists repetitively, we are inclined to get used to a warped version of life. We are constantly being manipulated, put down, and lied to. We get conditioned by our abuser, and this long-term harm has a deep effect on us. Every day is like being in combat. We fight to keep sane and not to become mentally drained, emotionally diminished, and physically fatigued. We actually don’t realize the damage they cause until it’s so obvious that no amount of make-up, denial, or isolation can hide it anymore.

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11/06/2023

Excerpt from “Survive & Thrive! Your Step-by-Step Guide to Peace and Freedom From the NPD/Gaslighting Relationship in Your Life”
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Dealing with Flying Monkeys? Try this affirmation: “Real friends will always get the facts. I am powerful and safe in the face of lies."
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05/06/2023

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~ Spotting a Flying Monkey Sent by the Narcissist ~

The flying monkey will be a go-between. They will try to tell the story from the narcissist's side, and then ask what message the victim wants him to give his boss. This usually happens when the narcissist’s calls are ignored or his number is blocked.
Suddenly, you might be flooded with strange friend requests from people you don’t know. They might have love song videos, I’m sorry memes, or forgive me messages on their feed; yet, you know all those are meant for you! They are telling you how your man or woman is missing you, how miserable they are, and how they want you back, naturally.
The flying monkey might come with his cell phone and play your “song.” He might stand up for his boss, and make some kind of excuse like: “You misunderstood what he meant.” He might even read you a note the narcissist wrote to ensure he gets the words right.
A true flying monkey will never ask what really happened. He won’t listen to your part of the story unless his boss told him to fish and report back. His number one focus is to protect the narcissist; he is not there to help you, make you feel better, or take your sadness away. He’s got a job to do, and he is doing it. You’re a handful of dollars, their brother’s plaything, some kind of entertainment. They definitely don’t regard you as a human being. Remind yourself of that!

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31/05/2023

Excerpt from “Survive & Thrive! Your Step-by-Step Guide to Peace and Freedom From the NPD/Gaslighting Relationship in Your Life”
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~ FLYING MONKEYS ~
So, what does a birdlike, banana-eating creature have to do with narcissism, you ask?
One thing about a single person is they cannot be at all places at all times and, even though they do their best to have serious chats with your friends and family about your meltdowns and the negative image you are suddenly portraying about them, they need a second person—or an entire squad—to back their statements. This way, you look like the person who has serious issues, and they look like the average Joe who is just like every other human being: kind, loving, cares for their loved one, and wants to do good.
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29/05/2023

~ How to Stop Gaslighting: Get Professional Help ~

Gaslighting is serious and can lead to physical injuries, emotional and mental scars, and even suicidal thoughts or actions. We know chances are the gaslighter is at fault and, even though they will promise to do anything for you to stay together, test them on it by suggesting going to a counselor, therapist, or narcissist support group.
More than likely, they will go once or twice and leave, but that doesn’t mean you should stop. Continue on your own, learn new skills, build up a network of like-minded people, and (most importantly) spend quality time with others who know what you are going through. No man is an island. Don’t try to be one. You’ll sink, I promise you!
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27/05/2023

Things to Say to Stop the Gaslighting

* “I don’t want to go into what he said or she said. We don’t have to have a dispute about this right now; we can discuss it later.”
* “What you are saying and what I am hearing is very different. We are not talking; we are trying to be louder to get our points across. We already have answers before one even finishes their question. Let’s leave this conversation until we both actually communicate. True communication entails one person speaking while the other listens, and then we swap roles. We are too tense and worked up, and it won't do any good now. We’ll try it another time.”
* “I don’t want to get into it now.”
* “It seems like we don’t remember the whole situation or all the facts. Let's ask (friends name) if he can come around and help us remember exactly what happened” (if you can involve others like friends, your priest, or even a counselor to help untangle messy states of affairs by getting a third perception to ask for assistance)
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23/05/2023

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EMPTYING THE GASLIGHTER’S GAS TANK: Stay Calm

Their frequent abuse, nagging accusations, nasty comments, and belittlement can cause you to become very emotional.
You can become tearful, depressed, angry, or vengeful; cry; dread potential physical harm; and be suicidal.
I know it’s easier said than done, but try to remain calm and emotionless. Try to change the subject and, if possible, leave the house or go work in the garden. Read a book on the balcony, even if you’re not focusing on any of the pages. The point is to remove yourself from their presence if you must stay in the same environment. Go to your bedroom and do some meditation. Do some breathing exercises or relaxation techniques. Every time he or she wants to restart the fight, just say you don’t want to talk about it now. They will get bored if you don’t react and, if you’re lucky, they might leave the house or apartment, giving you some much-needed alone time.
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22/05/2023

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WHEN TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT GASLIGHTING IS AFFECTING YOU
People say there is something wrong with you, but you can’t see what.
You do not trust your own decision-making anymore.
You can’t pinpoint the truth from lies anymore.
You think your friends all have a problem disliking the gaslighter and you cannot understand why, even if you continue to apologize for his behavior and abusive reactions.
You have to ask your gaslighter if they think you are acting out of control.
You have to ask for their opinion if your thoughts are dysfunctional, no matter what they are.
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20/05/2023

GASLIGHTERS AT WORK:
“Your Memory Is Shot!”
This phrase is used at work to make you look bad. They will candy-coat the situation, so it doesn't sound like they're outright trying to convince your coworkers that you are turning into a “mental vegetable” by saying, “I’m so worried about you; everything I ask you to do, you forget. You lose all the sticky notes I write down and leave on your desk or computer with the instructions on them for you to add to your diary. Did you even get the emails I forwarded you? You missed the meeting. I sent the email to everyone in the department online; in fact, you didn’t even respond.”
If you say you never received a meeting reminder, they will look at you like you deleted it without even taking note. They usually say it in front of their superior to make you look bad and to offer their services to lighten your load and give you some time to get better. You will never think that they would really harm you or sabotage you on purpose because you wouldn't do something like that, so you believe that they are truly worried about your mental health and that they can see you are feeling overwhelmed.
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17/05/2023

More Gaslighter Tricks: “Do You Really Think I Will Hurt You Deliberately?”

Before you think they might be saying ”Sorry,” they are not! They use this phrase to bounce the question right back to you. You will wonder, did you maybe overreact? Sometimes you exaggerate things—could this situation be one of them? They will defend their behavior by reminding you how you love adding more drama to a story. They want you to ask yourself if your thoughts are correct and if the situation really played out that way. Would he really harm you on purpose for no reason? They want you to question why, all of a sudden, you don’t trust them anymore.

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