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Ice Ice Baby ❄️❄️⁠⁠Enjoy singing that for the rest of the day! (you're welcome 😉)⁠⁠This is just a friendly reminder to s...
03/11/2021

Ice Ice Baby ❄️❄️⁠

Enjoy singing that for the rest of the day! (you're welcome 😉)⁠

This is just a friendly reminder to stop every once in a while and evaluate what's working and what's not working.

What feels good?⁠
What doesn't feel good?⁠

What boosts your energy?⁠
What drains your energy?⁠

What do you look forward to?⁠
What do you dread?⁠

Listen to what your body and mind tell you in response to these questions. Then you can choose whether and where you want to make a change.⁠

You're always allowed to change. You don't have to keep doing things the same way just because you've done them for however long.⁠

Do what's right for you. You know best! ⁠

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What's coming up for you when you read this?⁠⁠This can be a painful realisation.⁠⁠Especially when you're grieving. Your ...
02/11/2021

What's coming up for you when you read this?⁠

This can be a painful realisation.⁠

Especially when you're grieving. Your whole world stops but everyone and everything keeps moving and turning.⁠

Colours lose their vibrancy, everything loses taste and the world becomes flat and empty.⁠

It can be just as painful to realise that you're not needed as much as you thought. That if you were to take a break, that everyone would in actual fact be fine and would be able to look after themselves.⁠

You are not the cornerstone holding everything together for everyone that you think you are, but they let you think that and maybe, you quite like thinking that too?⁠

On the flip side, this realisation can come as such a relief!⁠

You CAN stop, pause, take some time out and the world doesn't end. The end is not nigh! ⁠

You are able to stop and you CAN stop, because the world doesn't. It all continues on its own merry way even if it you don't.⁠

So maybe it's time to do yourself a favour and stop. Step back. Give yourself some time. See the bigger picture?⁠

What do you think it will be like to take a break? Serious question. How will you feel? What will be different?⁠

What are your values?⁠⁠Values aren't goals, they're not the end destination. They're the driving force that *moves* us t...
01/11/2021

What are your values?⁠

Values aren't goals, they're not the end destination. They're the driving force that *moves* us to the end goal.⁠

Knowing what are values are is SO important to living a life that feels fulfilled and satisfying.⁠

Understanding what your values are helps you to set boundaries so that you can care for yourself.⁠

Finish the sentence, 'I value........'⁠

What do you value?

Here' are some of my values and how they help guide how I live:⁠
- time / not over scheduling + boundaries ⁠
- rest / getting enough sleep + boundaries ⁠
- authenticity / being honest ⁠+ integrity
- sustainability / eco consciousness + slow living⁠
- compassion /practising non judgement⁠
- adventure / being in nature + being curious⁠
- learning / reading, watching + courses⁠
- Cyclical Living / cycle tracking +🖕🏻 to algorithms⁠
- courage / challenging myself⁠
(the list goes on....)⁠

Your goal might be to travel the world but you'll need a sense of adventure and courage to achieve it. ⁠

Your goal might be a long term relationship but you'll need to value communication and empathy to get there. See what I'm getting at?⁠

When we lose touch with our values or ignore them, we can feel conflicted, uncomfortable and out of place.⁠

Example: I was feeling burned out by the social media machine because I was *constantly* producing and not working cyclically. This went against my value of cyclical living.⁠

I was feeling stressed and overwhelmed because I wasn't valuing my time so I was over committing and not respecting my capacity.⁠

Values work is a key tenet of - you might like to look it up if you're interested in learning more about what it means for you.

Tell me ONE value that drives you in life and for extra points, one that you want to reconnect with ❤️⁠

This is the pre-date...Inspired by 's wonderful newsletter.Like Sasha, I've been on a bit of a break from everything tha...
28/10/2021

This is the pre-date...

Inspired by 's wonderful newsletter.

Like Sasha, I've been on a bit of a break from everything that wasn't completely necessary and felt that, to 'come back', I had to come back with something super insightful and meaningful.

but really, I just had to get moving again. To stretch my limbs and yawn like an animal waking from hibernation.

So this is the pre-date. The part where I show up with no expectations for or of myself. To shake off that nervous energy and settle back into the cycle.

And really that's what I want to talk about - the cycle. The cycle of life, the ebb and flow, the peaks and troughs.

Except consumerism, capitalism and social media would have you believe that there is no cycle, with ups and downs and round and rounds but one straight, exponential line that must produce at all costs or else.

I haven't posted to IG in 7 weeks and you know what, I've actually gained followers (not that the number matters) but it just goes to show that we don't have to be 'on' all the time to still be moving.

Like nature (& we are PART of nature) we have seasons and when we deprive ourselves of these seasons, we feel disconnected and burned out.

There is a time to do and a time to rest.

I have allowed myself time to rest. I have given myself time to reflect, evaluate and process and now I know better what I want for myself. I'm reconnected to my VALUES.

Like (thanks ), I am re-evaluating my relationship with Instagram and transferring my understanding of cyclical living to my relationship with social media. Not to be constantly 'on' but to go with the flow.

It feels good.

If you'd like to learn more about cyclical living then I wholeheartedly invite you to join the community - it's THE best place on the internet where the emphasis is working with your own cycle and as much about rest as it is doing. Also sign up for 's newsletter - full of wisdom on boundaries, esp regarding social media!

Is there something you want to change in life?⁠⁠Try this powerful exercise to establish how motivated you are to make th...
25/08/2021

Is there something you want to change in life?⁠

Try this powerful exercise to establish how motivated you are to make the change.⁠

Rating yourself 1-10 will allow you to see how motivated you are.⁠

Asking what stops that from being a lower number highlights your WILLINGNESS to change.⁠

Even if you rated yourself as a '1' then it's still more than a 0 and if you rated yourself a 0 then it sounds like it's not something you want to change!!⁠

Finally, asking what will help move your rating up the scale, helps you identify what actions you need to take to progress towards the change you want.⁠

After doing this exercise, tell me⁠:⁠

How much more motivated do you feel to make that change??⁠

💃💃💃🎉🎉🎉⁠

Gentle reminder when you start doubting yourself.I'm reminding myself of this a lot recently.- when things I used to do ...
23/08/2021

Gentle reminder when you start doubting yourself.

I'm reminding myself of this a lot recently.

- when things I used to do feel like 'too much'
- when I worry about going out + being amongst groups
- when I feel I should be 'further' ahead than I am
- when I feel unmotivated and unfit
- when coping feels harder
- when I feel drained more easily
- when my tolerance is lower than I'd like
- when basic social interactions feel like a huge event

This is a reminder that just because governments decide things have gone back to 'normal' doesn't mean that you can, or have to suddenly 'feel' normal too.

If 'normal' means reverting back to the people we were pre-pandemic then I'm not sure that's even possible because we have all been so irrevocably changed by what we have experienced.

It's OKAY if you're finding things hard or are struggling with things you never used to. In fact, it's to be EXPECTED.

So when things feel different, when YOU feel different and when nothing feels 'normal' please be kind to yourself, and show yourself some compassion by not underestimating the effect that the last 2 years have had on us (and will continue to have).

Everything has changed, even if you can now go back to your local coffee shop or go out for a meal.

Take your time and implement the self-support strategies that work for you ❤️

If you're struggling to cope or are in crisis:
Speak to your GP
Call Samaritans on 116 123
Text SHOUT on 85258

[ID: Dark blue back ground. Title text in capitals reads 'DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE'. Body text reads 'the impact that the pandemic has had on your mental, emotional and physical health. And life, in general]


Does this sound like an obvious question?⁠⁠Of course you know what you need!⁠⁠Or do you?⁠⁠It's common to feel out of tou...
16/08/2021

Does this sound like an obvious question?⁠

Of course you know what you need!⁠

Or do you?⁠

It's common to feel out of touch with our own needs, especially when we've put others needs first or have become used to not listening to inner needs.⁠

Needs are essential to our survival and vary from the physical to the emotional to the mental.⁠

The degree to which we 'need' a need also varies from person to person.⁠

Fundamental needs include food and sleep - both of which we ALL need but which will vary between individuals.⁠

Abraham Maslow categorised the hierarchy of needs as follows with 1 being the most fundamental.⁠

1. Physiological - food, water, shelter, sleep, warmth⁠
2. Safety - personal, financial, employment, property⁠
3. Love/Belonging - friendship, intimacy, connection⁠
4. Esteem - respect, self-esteem, freedom, status⁠
5. Self-actualisation - achieving full potential, growth⁠

(this isn't an exhaustive list)⁠

The theory goes that you must fulfil lower needs before progressing onto higher needs (1 to 5 in this case).⁠

For example, you might find it difficult to develop a sense of self-worth (4) if your financial security (2) is at risk.⁠

This is a SUPER simplified overview of Maslow's Theory but it can provide a really helpful illustration and reminder of what your needs might be.⁠

For example, you might feel like you're a rubbish human with nothing going for you (4) but is that really the case or do you need to fulfil a need lower down the scale? e.g. social connection (3), budgeting (2) or a few good nights' sleep (1)!! I bet addressing any of those needs would help ease the feeling of being rubbish!⁠

So with all that in mind, do you know what you need this week to feel as best you can? Even if your best this week is being well slept with food in the fridge?⁠

How will you fulfil your needs this week?⁠

📌Save this post for when you want to check in with your needs!⁠


[ID: Plain salmon colour background. White text in middle reads "Do you know what you need?" White star below text]

"It's all about yoooou, it's all about you baby!!" *sings to the tune of McFly's 'It's all about you' (you know the one....
13/08/2021

"It's all about yoooou, it's all about you baby!!" *sings to the tune of McFly's 'It's all about you' (you know the one...)⁠

As a person centred counsellor, I'm all about your INDIVIDUAL experience and what's going to support YOU specifically⁠

I also believe that no one is going to understand you or your experience better than YOU and so you, are the expert on yourself!⁠

That's why I find cycle tracking to be a fantastic person-centred practice and here's why:⁠

- Your cycle is completely individual to YOU⁠
- It can bring you greater understanding and awareness of YOUR personal experience⁠
- It can help you implement personalised support that is specific to YOU and YOUR needs⁠
- ANYONE can do it!!⁠

That's right, ANYONE.⁠

It's not just for people with menstrual cycles because you can tailor it suit whatever cycle suits you best or that you're most interested in.⁠

The chart featured, allows for tracking a calendar month cycle and/or a menstrual cycle, depending on whether day 1 is the 1st day of the month or day 1 of your cycle (I do both by annotating my menstrual cycle at the top).⁠

And it also has room to follow the lunar cycle if that suits you better.⁠

Whichever cycle(s) you track, the aim is to see whether there are any patterns to the things you're tracking e.g. sleep, motivation, skin, BBT etc.⁠

Don't forget there are other cycles too including the circadian (night/day) and seasonal!⁠

This tracking chart is available as part of my downloadable planner bundle on Etsy - follow the address in bio to find your 'Peace of Mind Planner'⁠

What are you tracking in your cycles?⁠

I'm currently really interested in tracking any sleep patterns I might have!⁠

[ID: Plain cream coloured background. Title in dark brown reads "Monthly Cycle Tracker". Image of cycle tracking chart in centre. Below chart reads "optimise your energy, boost creativity and practise ultimate self-care by tracking your natural cycles"]

What would you like your morning to look like?⁠⁠I'm still figuring out what works for me and think I will be forever.......
11/08/2021

What would you like your morning to look like?⁠

I'm still figuring out what works for me and think I will be forever....⁠ 🤷🏻‍♀️

What I have learned though, is that it doesn't suit me to do the same things all the time. As the seasons change, my energy changes and how well I've slept changes, so my morning routine needs to change as well!⁠

That's why I find it helpful to create a 'menu' for myself because it allows CHOICE.⁠

It also takes the thinking out of making a choice which is really helpful, especially when I've just woken up!⁠

This is a general version of what my menu looks like but mine contains more specific items so exercise would be swim or Qigong and I have a specific morning meditation playlist on 🧘🏻‍♀️

Some days I do more than others and some days, I do nothing at all! ⁠

The things that support you should do exactly that and shouldn't be another stick to beat yourself with and when the most supportive thing you can do for yourself is to have a lie in then that counts too!⁠

What would you include in your morning menu?⁠
Share some inspiration in the comments!⁠

[ID: Plain peach coloured background. Title reads "Morning Routine Menu". Suggestions in two bullet pointed columns reads "Herbal tea, drink water, affirmations, tarot/oracle, meditation, read, podcast, music, daily prayer, gratitude, stretches/yoga, exercise, go outside, journal prompts]⁠

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Hands up if you go around the houses when asking for something that you need?⁠⁠Or do you drop vague hints in the hope th...
09/08/2021

Hands up if you go around the houses when asking for something that you need?⁠

Or do you drop vague hints in the hope that the other person gets it?⁠

It can feel REALLY hard to ask for what we need. And being direct about it can feel REALLY uncomfortable.⁠

We might not want to be explicit about what we need because:⁠
- we don't want to inconvenience someone⁠
- we're concerned how our request will be received⁠
- we worry that it could be misinterpreted⁠
- we've learned to put others first⁠
- we don't want to upset someone⁠
- [insert your own reason here]⁠

Although we can never, completely minimise those risks, being explicit about our needs is actually LESS likely to lead to those worries.⁠

When we are CLEAR and DIRECT about what we need, there is less room for misinterpretation and we have the opportunity to clearly explain why we might need that thing, meaning that we can be more objective and leave emotion out of it.⁠

What stops you from asking for what you need?⁠

I'll go first!⁠
Then tell me yours in the comments 💕⁠

I tend to worry about putting other people out but I also try and remember that they can say no too, if it's something they don't want to do!⁠

[ID: Background is lightly textured neutral coloured wall with light slatted shadow across. Slide 1 reads "1 simple way to make sure that your needs are met". Slide 2 reads "1. ASK. Don't expect other people to be mind readers - be explicit about what you need! Just because it's obvious to you, doesn't mean it's obvious to them."]⁠


Today marks the celebration of Lammas which traditionally celebrated the first harvest of the year and offers an opportu...
01/08/2021

Today marks the celebration of Lammas which traditionally celebrated the first harvest of the year and offers an opportunity to gather in and give thanks for the abundance we receive.

It also serves as an acknowledge that the Sun will be begin to fade and the light will begin to wane.

It's therefore a time to reflect on change and transition (as most Sabbats are to be honest) as we begin our descent into the slower darker months.

Today I'm thinking about how I want the Winter months to look for me and at the moment I'm thinking about 'squirreling' away on work and ideas, laying foundations, reflecting on my inner self and doing the work that's needed there and also trying to relish the slowness that Autumn and Winter bring.

I'm marking the occasion by doing my usual monthly review and monthly plan but also have the added bonus of coming together with the community for our monthly 'Gather session - timing couldn't really be anymore perfect!

Here' s a photo of me in front a big sunflower display, because nothing says summer or harvest quite like a mountain of sunflowers!! 🌻🌻

I for one, can't wait for the cooler, darker days - I need to rest and retreat!
How are you feeling about heading into Autumn? 🍁

Wish you could figure out where you end and your thoughts begin?⁠⁠Read on!⁠⁠Thoughts are just a bunch of sounds strung t...
31/07/2021

Wish you could figure out where you end and your thoughts begin?⁠

Read on!⁠

Thoughts are just a bunch of sounds strung together to make sentences - they're not facts and they certainly don't make you WHO you are.⁠

Sometimes, it can feel like we're SO close to our thoughts (I mean, they are generated inside our own heads....) BUT just because they come from us don't mean they ARE us.⁠

A simple and helpful way to put some distance between you and your thoughts is to NOTICE when you're having a thought.⁠

Sounds obvious right? OF COURSE you're aware of when you're having a thought 🤦‍♀️⁠

But how often do you actual register and process that it's JUST a thought you're having?⁠

To make a point of it, when you notice you're having a thought, either say to yourself or out loud;⁠

"I'm noticing that I'm having a thought that..."⁠

And for example;⁠

"...that I'm worried about going out"⁠
"...that something bad might happen"⁠
"...that it feels like everyone is looking at me"⁠
"...that I'm a bad person"⁠

It might sound silly but try it! ⁠
Sometimes the silliest of things can be the most effective.⁠

Failing that, reminding yourself that "I am not my thoughts" can be really helpful too!⁠

If you try this, I would LOVE to know how you got on with it (even if you feel like it's 👎🏻) - leave a comment or send me a DM⁠


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