31/10/2025
We often don’t choose the energies we’re surrounded by in childhood, but we get to choose which kinds of energies and people we want to be around as adults. Sadly, we may take many years, even decades, to realise this.
Old patterns are hard to break.
Even into our twenties and beyond, we may gravitate towards partners, jobs, and friends that carry a familiar chaos and unpredictability that we thought was ‘normal’ in our childhood. Our nervous system remains on high alert in these dynamics - that’s why we may continue to be reactive, snappy, and constantly feel like we need to prove something to others in order to be seen, loved, or understood.
Here’s the thing though - you shouldn’t have to fight to be understood. And you don’t need to be perfect in order to be loved.
There are people out there who will see you, and appreciate you, and celebrate you, just for being you. There are people who will enjoy seeing you calm, seeing you thriving, and who will want you to succeed.
You’ll realise that the people who rushed you and criticised you in the past were mostly just projecting their own anxieties onto you.
You’ll move through the discomfort of feeling misunderstood, until one day you realise that THIS is your ultimate superpower. Dare to be misunderstood. Dare to be imperfect. That is where the rebirth begins. It is the doorway to finding your long-awaited peace. 🪽
