06/06/2026
Before you consider motherhood:
Ask - Am I self resourced and stable within?
Does my partner have the capacity to nourish and nurture us in the most critical development years of life. I remember silently abandoning this dream, simply because of what I saw women in my lineage go through. Until I looked at a deeper lense of the system around them.
I go on dates now with clear intentions and questions: to see how emotionally the guy responds. Is he gonna make us feel fragile? Unsustainable? Does he have the capacity for me and a creation of us?
It’s not that women don’t want children but the cost they pay in the process of it all where they are ought to over function. The conditions of raising, the thoughts and mindset of the partner around child care and development. Parenting styles. They are told - you have time but constantly reminded of a biological clock.
Very few admit- I haven’t met a single person who is partner enough to feel emotionally safe on this journey.
The pattern to change is not abandoning motherhood but to meet and date consciously before exhausting and exchanging anything emotionally/ sexually.
Observe his real mindfulness and patience when burdens make loneliness worse, pressures rise, figure yourself out /do it on your own statements.
You both enter a union with a holistic mindset to making sure you have enough aligned to take equal number of months / years off because bringing a new life is equal to a whole project.
Love the fantasy with the one who can co create it practically too.
DM to work to start your journey on conscious re-parenting and more through Heart Sutra 🌹♥️
