14/09/2026
Back to Basics!
Another questions I'm often asked, sometimes directly and sometimes more subtly, is: “Why is counselling taking so long?”
It’s a fair question. We often think of support as something that identifies a problem, provides a solution, and then comes to an end. Sometimes that is exactly what is needed.
But many of the children and young people I work with are not dealing with a single, simple problem. Some are navigating the effects of trauma, while others are living with significant anxiety, identity questions, friendship difficulties, family stress, emotional overwhelm, or the challenges that can sometimes come with neurodivergence. These experiences can shape how a young person sees themselves, relates to others, and experiences the world.
Trauma is often created in relationships, and when the wound is relational, healing is rarely just about learning a coping strategy. But even when trauma is not the main issue, young people still need a space where they feel emotionally safe, understood, accepted, and supported.
Before a young person can talk about the hard things, they need to know that someone will listen without judgement. Before they can explore change, they need to feel safe. Before they can trust their own voice, they might need to experience a relationship where their thoughts, feelings, and experiences are taken seriously.
That takes time!
Engaging in long-term counselling does not mean a child or young person is failing, and it does not mean counselling is “not working.” Often, it reflects the depth of what they are navigating and the importance of having consistent support while they grow, heal, and make sense of themselves and their world.
At Project 18, we do not measure success only by how quickly counselling ends. We look for signs of connection, confidence, self-understanding, participation, hope, and the growing belief that they are worthy of care.
Sometimes staying connected for longer is not a sign that nothing is changing.
It is a sign that the foundations for lasting change are being built.
And that takes time!
📷 Feathers as a metaphor for time.