24/08/2026
Back to Basics!
It doesn’t matter how long it has been around, or how familiar it is to many of us, a question I am still so often asked is “what actually is counselling”?
And to be honest, it’s a great question. Counselling, for many, is something they’ve heard about, but never experienced themselves. So that can create all sorts of assumptions. Not to mention that there are so many different types of counselling and counsellors.
So, here’s how I often describe it:
Counselling is NOT about being judged, analysed, or told what to do. It is NOT a place where someone decides whether your feelings are reasonable or whether your experiences are ‘serious’ enough to matter.
Counselling, at its heart, is a conversation within a safe and respectful relationship. It is a two-way dialogue, an exchange and interaction, sometimes communicated without words.
It is a space where clients can speak openly, sit quietly, share, cry, laugh, question things, or simply try to make sense of what has been happening in their life.
Sometimes the work is practical. Sometimes it is emotional. Sometimes it is about exploring and discovering, to help understand patterns, build coping strategies, or uncover who you are and what really matters to you.
People often think counselling is only for times of crisis. It is not. So often clients seek counselling long before things reach breaking point, which is good.
Sometimes they reach out because they feel stuck, something feels heavy, or confusing, wrong or just different to how they want to feel.
Counselling is not about ‘fixing’ a person. I see it as creating space where insight, healing, change and growth have an opportunity to take place. This looks different for each of us, as it should, we are all different, which is great, it’s what makes us human.
If you’d like to read some other explanations here are some links:
What is Counselling? - Australian Counselling Association
Counsellors and counselling - what is it and how it can help | healthdirect
📷 Expression withouth words - shared with permission.