17/06/2026
Your newborn only wants to settle on you. This doesn’t mean you can never put your baby down.
It means that expecting consistent independent sleep from the very beginning often sets parents up to feel like something is wrong.
Human babies are born neurodevelopmentally vulnerable.
This need for connection doesn’t disappear after the newborn period. Babies continue to rely on us for co-regulation as they grow, gradually building the foundations for resilience and independence.
Trust the closeness, trust your baby and trust your body.
Reference for the mentioned study: St James-Roberts I, Alvarez M, Csipke E, Abramsky T, Goodwin J, Sorgenfrei E. Infant crying and sleeping in London, Copenhagen and when parents adopt a “proximal” form of care. Pediatrics. 2006;117.