07/09/2026
"๐'๐ซ๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐."
I hear this most weeks, and I understand exactly why.
But I don't think it's usually true, and I mean that as encouragement rather than a correction.
๐๐๐ง๐'๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ๐๐๐.
A woman lists what she's tried, and it's a genuinely long list.
๐๐ก๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐๐๐๐ฉ๐จ. ๐๐ช๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ฉ๐ค๐๐ค๐ก๐จ. ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐๐ง๐จ. ๐๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐. ๐พ๐ช๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐จ ๐ค๐ช๐ฉ, ๐๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐จ ๐๐ฃ, ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ข๐ค๐ง๐ ๐๐๐จ๐๐๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐๐ค๐ช๐ฉ ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ค๐ ๐๐ฉ.
Which is a lot of effort. Years of it, often.
But look at the shape of that list. Almost every item is the same category of action: add something, remove something, or try harder at something.
What's usually missing is the question underneath. Not "what should I do next?" but "what is my body already carrying that's making everything I try land badly?"
That's not one more thing to add to the list.
It's a different question, and it tends to change which items on the list were ever going to work.
๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช'๐ซ๐ ๐๐๐ก๐ฉ ๐ก๐๐ ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช'๐ซ๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐โฆ ๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ข๐ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ช๐ก๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐จ๐๐ฎ ๐๐จ ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ค๐ฃ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช๐ง ๐ฅ๐๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช'๐ซ๐ ๐ฃ๐๐ซ๐๐ง ๐๐๐ฉ๐ช๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐ก๐ค๐ค๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ฉ?