20/08/2026
A very important note to add here….desire, arousal and or**sm shift for all kinds of reasons as you may have read in my previous posts, and these slides won’t be for everyone. If you are asexual and content, that’s is perfectly ok, if your desire has simply changed with a life stage, if medication (like SSRIs or hormonal contraception), pain conditions, thyroid or hormonal issues, depression, or relationship dynamics are at play here, those are very real, valid, and deserve proper care. And if trauma shapes how safe intimacy feels for you, that especially deserves its own trauma-informed support…
This post is for something more specific: the people whose libido, arousal and pleasure have left the building while they’ve been living in chronic stress, running on a nervous system that’s braced, wired and depleted.
In survival mode, desire is one of the first things the body can let go of. That’s rarely because of you as a person or a relationship verdict. It’s your body under a massive load, and it’s exactly what we work on.
If this resonated with you, please know you are not alone and there are always nervine and libido enhancing herbs for you 🌿😉… or maybe, it’s more so about taking off some of those things on your to do list and drop the expectations of yourself a little hey.
Tara 💛 x