Shine Om

05/09/2026

When Shelby began her breathwork journey, she set one intention:

To become a safe harbour for her girls.

Not the perfect mum.
Not the calm-all-the-time mum.

A safe place.

She wanted to feel safe in herself —
so her daughters could feel safe being fully themselves.

Because she noticed something honest.

There were moments she wanted to check out.
To escape.
To withdraw when the tantrums came.

And through breathwork, she uncovered why.

Her nervous system wasn’t just reacting to her daughter’s meltdown.
It was responding to an old imprint —
a memory of a similar moment from her own childhood.

That was the “bingo” moment.

The realisation that the rage, the checking out, the overwhelm…
wasn’t random.

It was patterned.

And once it’s seen, it can be met differently.

This is the power of conscious breath.
It gives you access to what’s underneath the reaction.

So you can choose to show up as the safe harbour —
not from force,
but from coherence.

🎧 Listen to Breathwork, Simplicity, and Authentic Motherhood with Shelby Trevillian
https://youtu.be/zfeUbUaPv1U?si=QiR3vNymuAlqT5zh

Read more:
https://shineom.com.au/breathwork-motherhood-shelby-trevillian/

03/09/2026

You don't need twenty quiet minutes to reset. You need sixty seconds.

Most calming advice assumes a version of your day that doesn't exist — one with spare time in it.

This practice was built for the real thing: the moment right before you snap, in the middle of actual chaos, with both kids still in the room.

Sixty seconds. That's the whole ask.

Try the reset. Link in bio. The free Nervous System Quiz is linked too.

You don't need twenty quiet minutes to reset your nervous system. Here's a 60-second breathwork practice you can use mid-meltdown, from a mum of two who needed exactly this.

31/08/2026

The potty training came undone.

So did the sleep.

Maybe they’re asking for a bottle again.
Wanting to be carried everywhere.
Climbing into the baby’s swing.
Wanting to be “the baby.”

If that’s your home right now…

Take a slow breath.

Nothing has gone wrong.

Regression after a new sibling isn’t your child going backwards.

It’s actually one of the cleverest things their nervous system can do.

Think about it through their eyes.

A tiny new person arrives and suddenly they’re carried, rocked, fed, cuddled and adored simply because they’re little.

So your firstborn asks the most logical question:

“If being little brings me closer to Mum and Dad… maybe I should be little again.”

That’s not manipulation.

It’s love.

It’s their way of saying,

“I miss you. Can you come find me?”

Sometimes the most healing response isn’t correcting the behaviour.

It’s answering the need underneath it.

Rock your big kid.
Carry them for a while.
Let them climb onto your lap.

When closeness is freely given, they don’t need to fight so hard to find it.

Regression is temporary.

The connection you build through it lasts much longer.

If you’re navigating this season, I’ve written about what’s actually happening inside your child’s nervous system, what’s completely normal, and how to support them without feeling like you’ve gone backwards.

Because understanding the “why” changes everything. 💜

30/08/2026

Motherhood changes you.

But it doesn’t erase you.

And yet, in those early months and years, it can feel like parts of you quietly disappear.

The spontaneity.
The space to think.
Finishing a hot cup of tea.
The hobbies, the work, the impulse to follow what lights you up.

So much of motherhood asks us to turn our energy outward —
toward our babies, our homes, the never-ending list of things that need doing.

But when we forget to turn some of that attention back inward…

That’s when the ache begins.

Not because you’re doing motherhood wrong.
But because a part of you is asking to be remembered.

This episode opens a conversation so many mothers quietly carry:

How do we honour who we’re becoming without losing ourselves along the way?

🎧 Listen to From Maiden to Mother: Navigating and Reclaiming Your Identity in Motherhood

Watch on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/uleMHwGZGYU?si=N0JM4noUnNx7qPoI

Learn more:
https://shineom.com.au/rediscover-your-identity-after-motherhood/

29/08/2026

Sometimes the most regulating thing in motherhood… is silence.

In this episode, Natalie .natalie shares that when she listens to something, it’s a podcast called You Make Sense—a beautiful show exploring inner work, parts work, and nervous system regulation.

I love this moment.

Because it reminds us that healing isn’t linear, and we all need different things at different times — sometimes guidance, sometimes stillness.

And I’m always here for good recommendations.

If this conversation resonated, know this:

Breathe, Laugh, Parent is full of insights, resources, grounded nervous system education, and real conversations about authentic motherhood.

Not noise.
Not pressure.
But thoughtful, practical support you can return to when you’re ready.

And if what you need today is silence?
That counts too.

🎧 Watch the full episode with Natalie Olson: https://youtu.be/IFrJCIUuIJk?si=C-KuXEYhoSr2bexl

Read more: https://shineom.com.au/authentic-motherhood-nervous-system-care-natalie-olson/

27/08/2026

Toddler hitting the new baby? Here's what actually helps, in the moment.

Underneath the hitting is a nervous system that hasn't yet learned another way to say "this is too much."

This post offers practical, in-the-moment scripts, along with the why behind the behaviour — so you can respond calmly, keep everyone safe, and hold both children with the same warmth.

No shame for either of you. Just a steadier way through.

Read the scripts. Link in bio. The free 5-Day Nervous System Reset is linked too.

Wonderinf if you are the only one who's toddler keeps hitting the baby? This article is to let you know you are not alone and provide practical, in-the-moment scripts plus the nervous system reason behind why your toddler keeps hitting the baby, so you can respond calmly and keep everyone safe.

23/08/2026

You don’t “lose” joy. You lose access to it.

When you’re moving through something heavy — grief, trauma, exhaustion — it can feel like joy is gone.

Like it’s been taken from you.

But here’s the truth:

Joy will wait for you.
It always does.

And the hardest part?

You’re still parenting through it.

Still showing up.
Still holding space for your children…
while quietly navigating your own experience.

That’s not something we talk about enough.

If this resonates, this episode gives language to what you might be feeling—and helps you understand how joy and pain can coexist in motherhood.

🎧 Watch on YouTube (including a powerful reframe on joy after trauma and how to move through it while parenting):
https://youtu.be/QsPtfl8d2Rw?si=riw38V2l32JxaVvZ

📖 Read about how to gently reconnect with joy after trauma and support your nervous system in motherhood:
https://shineom.com.au/shineom-com-au-finding-joy-after-trauma/

22/08/2026

What’s the bravest change you’ve ever made? ✨

This podcast guest, Bree Wi******er, shares how she left behind the life she’d built — marriage, business, home — to create one that felt truly hers.

Her story is raw, real, and deeply inspiring for anyone standing at the edge of a big decision.
She reminds us that courage isn’t about having no fear… it’s about moving forward while your heart pounds.

🎧 Listen now and tell me in the comments: what’s one change you’ve been scared to make, but know deep down you need to?

https://youtu.be/4zNuxrHuJ9c?si=8Xm3PklZ2yI5XMlK
Learn more: https://shineom.com.au/podcast

22/08/2026

Ten minutes became an anchor for us. 📓

After my youngest arrived, I didn’t suddenly discover that small moments of connection mattered.

I’ve always believed in the micro moments.

But I was exhausted.

Sleep deprived.
Healing.
Caring for a baby while still wanting my eldest to know, deeply, that she still had me.

And on those really depleted days, sometimes I didn’t have the capacity to think of how to create that connection.

I needed something to guide me too.

That’s really where the Family Gratitude Journal came from.

Ten minutes.

We might write.
We might draw.
We might talk.

Some days it’s a sentence.

Other days, one little prompt opens the door to a whole conversation and I hear things I didn’t even know she had been carrying.

And that’s the part that matters most to me.

The journal gives us somewhere to begin.

But underneath it, the message is:

I see you.
I’m listening.
What matters to you matters to me.
We still have this space together.

Because when you’re sleep deprived and depleted, connection doesn’t need to be elaborate.

Sometimes you just need something gentle enough to help you find your way back to each other. 💜

📓 The Family Gratitude Journal — Available on my website and from Amazon (check it out via the link in bio).

20/08/2026

Already lost your patience today? This one's for you, not against you.

Repair matters more than never losing your cool.

Every parent has a moment they wish they could take back. What matters most isn't that it happened — it's what you do next.

This is a judgment-free toolkit for reconnecting after a hard moment. Not just for the "calm" parents. For all of us.

The repair toolkit is on the blog. Link in bio. The free 5-Day Nervous System Reset is linked too.

Already lost your patience today? Here's a judgment-free repair process for how to repair after snapping at your kids and reconnecting after a rupture or hard moment.