16/09/2026
Co-regulation. And not just for infants—for all ages.
Because before anyone can notice or describe a body signal, they have to feel safe enough to be in their body.
And that kind of safety doesn’t come from stickers, scripts, or behavior plans—it comes from:
☑️ Feeling internal discomfort
☑️ Expressing that discomfort in some way
☑️ Being met with curiosity and a determination to figure out the unmet interoceptive need
☑️ Receiving feel-good sensations from that process
☑️ Learning: My body signals matter. Someone believes me. I feel better. My inner experience is worthy of attention.
This is the foundation of interoceptive awareness:
Someone being curious about our insides and having the willingness to try (and try again) to meet the need.
And here’s the hard part:
A person might grow up with loving, attuned co-regulation—but eventually, they’re met with systems full of expectations, compliance, and a lack of curiosity.
But guess what? The need for co-regulation doesn’t disappear (sorry, compliance).
We need more curiosity about observable behaviors.
More willingness to ask: What’s the unmet need here?
More trying, failing, repairing, and trying again—until they begin to learn more about caring for their own bodily needs.
