07/06/2026
Women don’t need more coping mechanisms. They need somewhere safe to fall apart.
It isn’t uncommon for someone to walk into my adjusting room, barely know me, barely say a word, and then suddenly the tears come. Uncontrollable and these women struggle to keep them in for fear of what is, what will be seen, what they don’t understand and what may be.
What always fascinates me isn’t the tears. It’s how quickly they apologise for them. How quickly they try to stop, pull themselves together and figure out why it’s happening, as though feeling something deeply means they’re doing something wrong.
I usually tell them the same thing… You’re okay.
You don’t need to explain it, justify it or even understand it right now. Just let it move.
Somewhere along the way many of us learnt that emotions were inconvenient. We learnt to stay strong, stay positive, keep going and hold it all together. And we got really good at it.
The problem is, what we don’t process doesn’t magically disappear. It often shows up as tension, weight on shoulders, loudness and bigness of things, a very at the world and your favorite people, uncontrollable snapping or words and thoughts, wanting to hide and escape and just everything is way too much. Carrying it all is never what we were meant to do and we struggle to asks for help a lot of the time.
Most women need support, space and tools that help them feel safe enough to reconnect with themselves again, they are not broken or failing.
For me that’s looked like chiropractic care, weights, movement, nature time, honest conversations and the natural tools I use daily to support my nervous system when life feels loud. Nit to suppress or numb feelings but to help me hold, understand and move through them.
If you’ve been feeling like you’re carrying the weight of the world lately, maybe the answer is giving yourself permission to put some of it down.
If this feels like you, send me a message with the word SAFE and I’ll send you the things that work for me and the thousands of women I have worked through this with.
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