25/05/2026
Why weren’t we told motherhood holds so many invisible threads of grief?
Rarely grief through death,
but grief through change.
The grief of who you were before.
The grief of watching your children grow out of versions of themselves you loved so dearly.
The grief of relationships shifting.
The grief of how your body is different.
The grief of expectations unmet.
The grief of witnessing your child hurt, struggle, separate, or become their own person.
The grief woven through every season that asks you to let go while still loving deeply.
The grief that sits so intertwined with joy, hope and love.
So much of motherhood is holding endings that no one names as endings.
And because our culture speaks of grief as something reserved only for death, many mothers move through these experiences believing something is wrong with them - instead of recognising they are standing inside one of the most human parts of mothering.
Perhaps motherhood is, in part, the lifelong practice of loving through continual change.