The Essence of Healing

The Essence of Healing The Essence of Healing is a thriving holistic wellness practice in Drouin. Naturopath Author Teacher

Services provided: Naturopathic, Flower Essence Therapy, Counselling, Empowered Tapping, Fitgenes - genetic profiling, author

04/09/2026

The need to feel important is human.

We want to know that we matter—that our presence, contribution and existence hold significance.

But when importance becomes dependent on being useful, needed or indispensable, the fear of being ignored begins shaping our choices.

We may take responsibility for everything, solve everyone’s problems or ensure others cannot manage without us.

When people rely on us, seek us out or make us a priority, we temporarily feel significant.

But borrowed importance must be continually proven.

When others manage without us, don’t seek our help or direct their attention elsewhere, we can feel ignored, unnecessary or irrelevant.

The answer is not to stop wanting to be important to others.

It is to also become important to ourselves—to listen to our internal guidance, consider our needs and make ourselves a priority in our own lives.

That’s how Empowered Realism helps you make sense of yourself.

© Leonie Blackwell, 2026

03/09/2026

Lies Within Darkness
Based on True Events

02/09/2026

Come and meet the Anger family. 😂

There’s Grumpy Grandpa, Repulsed Grandma, Discontent Mum, Frustrated Dad, Impatience Cousin, Irritable Sister, Hostile Brother, Offended Uncle and Bitter Aunt.

They are all related—but they don’t express anger at the same intensity.

We often speak about anger as though it is one emotion. In reality, it can be expressed through a family of similar emotions, ranging from less intense experiences such as annoyance and irritability through to more intense experiences such as hostility and rage.

Recognising the emotion—and its intensity—helps us understand more precisely what we are experiencing.

And none of these characters has to take up permanent residence within us.

Emotions can be acknowledged, released and transformed.

Discover the Emotional Continuums and Empowered Tapping® in Accessing Your Inner Secrets.

© Leonie Blackwell, 2024

01/09/2026

We focus on our sense of worth as if it is something we can grow. We do this because we feel as if we have to constantly prove our worth. Yet if worth is inherent, how can it grow?

01/09/2026

There is a difference between ‘accepting what is’ and saying ‘it will always be this way.’ One opens the door to possibility, the other closes it.

31/08/2026

What does a deferred life look like when we fear we don’t have the competence others have?

We avoid doing things that are unfamiliar.
We leave tasks for others to complete.
We refer decisions to someone more experienced.
We don’t join in.
We don’t take risks.
We don’t even try.
We keep studying instead of doing. We are convinced we need another qualification before we’re ready to start.

When we wait until we are competent, we can delay independence, enjoyment, learning and discovery.

Competence is not the entry requirement for participation. It is often the result of participation.

30/08/2026

Have you ever decided you couldn’t do something before giving yourself a chance to try?

A momentary sense of inadequacy can provide useful information:

I don’t know how to do this yet.
I haven’t developed this skill.
I may need practice or help.

But when our inadequacy container becomes oversized, we no longer experience inadequacy as information.

We live inside it.

Comparison then turns difference into deficiency.

Someone else’s ability becomes evidence of our limitation. Their achievement becomes evidence of our failure. Their confidence becomes evidence of our weakness. Their visibility makes us fear being overlooked.

Their success can even feel as though it has reduced what remains available for us.

This is where desire may become jealousy or envy—not simply because someone else has something we want, but because their gain is interpreted as our exclusion.

Then inadequacy begins preventing discovery.

We avoid being a novice, asking for help, risking failure, being visible or feeling vulnerable. We decide we cannot succeed, so we don’t gain the experience that might reveal what we can learn, develop or do.

Our lack of experience then appears to confirm our original belief.

Reducing the inadequacy container does not mean convincing ourselves that we can do everything.

Someone else’s ability tells us what they can do.

Our willingness to learn, practise and discover will reveal what we can do.

29/08/2026

Can you hold the evidence of your own competence?

We often think building competence is simply about developing more skills. But we also need the capacity to recognise and retain what our experiences reveal about us.

A competency is a particular demonstrable skill or area of capability. Competence is the broader capacity or ability we possess.

When evidence of our competence enters our self-understanding, three things can happen.

It can leak.

We dismiss the achievement, attribute it to luck, focus on an imperfection or insist anyone could have done it. The competence may be real, but the evidence doesn’t remain long enough to change how we know ourselves.

It can overflow.

“I did this well” expands into “I am better than you.” A skill becomes superiority. Achievement becomes status. What we can do is stretched beyond what it actually proves.

Or it can integrate.

We feel pleased that we did something well. Satisfied that we developed a skill. Surprised by a natural ability. Happy that we learnt something new.

Our skills, abilities, talents, knowledge and gifts become reliable knowledge about ourselves.

Integration means neither underselling nor overselling our abilities.

It means allowing what is true to become part of how we know ourselves.

What have you recently discovered you can do?

28/08/2026

The Quiet Room is not where I hand you a prettier story about your life.

It is where we make sense of what is actually happening—the patterns beneath your reactions, relationships, choices and fears.

We give language to what has felt tangled and develop the clarity and capacity to meet it.

I teach from lived experience, but the goal is not for you to become more like me.

It is for you to recognise, trust and become more fully yourself.

No fluff.
No borrowed answers.
No pretending everything is wonderful.

Just compassionate truth, grounded understanding and the freedom that becomes possible when you can navigate real life as yourself.

If life, love, relationships—or even you—no longer make sense, The Quiet Room is where we begin.

www.leonieblackwell.au/the-quiet-room

27/08/2026

A deferred life does not always look like a person sitting alone, doing nothing.

Sometimes it looks extraordinarily full.

We work.
Meet deadlines.
Support family.
See friends.
Exercise.
Make plans.
Create meaningful lives.

But beneath all that activity, part of us can remain stationed beside someone who is not there.

We tell ourselves:

My life will truly begin when somebody chooses me.

When they return.

When I know whether love is coming.

Waiting can leave us suspended in the Desert.

It can engulf us in the Jungle as we monitor signs, revisit the past and predict every possible future.

And even in the Savannah, we can continue interrupting a life we genuinely value—preserving space for a love that has not arrived yet.

The Mountain does not ask us to stop wanting intimate love.

It asks us to stop making today wait for it.

Your life can be decided and lived even when the person who may eventually share it remains unknown.

Feel the love that is real now.

Choose the relationships that are present now.

Inhabit the life that is available now.

And remain open to whoever may meet you along the path.

You do not have to stop wanting love to stop waiting for your life.

© Leonie Blackwell, 2026
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