Chloe Coven

Chloe Coven For women ready to hold more. Power. Pressure. Responsibility. Without their nervous system destabilising.

02/09/2026

I think I can officially say it…

I’m out of survival mode.

And f**k… That feels BIG.

If you’ve been here for a while, you’ll know this hasn’t happened overnight.

Six years ago, I had a four-year-old and a two-year-old, and I was already so far away from myself.

I was parenting, working, trying to hold everything together, and somewhere along the way I had completely lost touch with who I was.

The last six years have been a whole fu***ng journey.

Motherhood.
My marriage.
My relationship with myself.
Deep self-reflection.
Self-love.
Unlearning.
Rebuilding.

There were years where I was deeply depressed and anxious. Where I didn’t know who I was. Where I hated myself. People-pleased. Abandoned myself. Felt completely stuck.

And over the last couple of years, I became really aware that I was slowly coming out of survival mode.

I could feel myself changing.

I could feel myself coming back.

But I don’t think I realised until now that I’m actually here.

Certainly not perfect.
Not healed.
Absolutely not finished.

Just… No longer living from a place of survival.

(Thank god! (me - I am the god)😂

I’m not constantly trying to get through the next thing.

I’m not desperately trying to fix myself.

I’m not abandoning myself to keep everything and everyone else okay.

I feel present.

I feel safe within myself.

I feel alive.

And honestly, after six years of doing the work…

I think I’m finally getting to experience what all of that work was for.

Not becoming a different woman.

Coming home to the woman who was always there underneath it all.

And my gosh…

I’m really, really proud of her ♥️🔥🧜‍♀️💃🧝‍♀️🌶️

I know that might ruffle some feathers… 😂Two things.1. He did this work before me, and I know he would continue to do it...
18/08/2026

I know that might ruffle some feathers… 😂

Two things.

1. He did this work before me, and I know he would continue to do it after me if anything ever happened to our marriage.
2. I would be a present mother with or without him. I would always find a way to work less so that my children (and my marriage) could be a priority.

I am, however, incredibly grateful for the man my husband is.

I’m grateful for our relationship.

I’m grateful that we continually choose us, our commitment to each other and our family.

I’m grateful for the way we constantly find our way back to each other, even in the moments when we don’t necessarily like each other.

I’m grateful for the love and connection we have.

I’m grateful that, when it comes down to it, whilst money is great, our relationship will always come first.

I love my husband. I’m proud of the man he is. And our relationship is solid. Together, we will continue to create a beautiful life for our family.

But this bu****it narrative of:

“Thank you for providing this life for me.”

I’m just not buying it anymore.

Because when we, as women, constantly position ourselves as owing a man for the life we have, we create this underlying story that he has given us something we couldn’t have created ourselves.

And I don’t believe that.

I don’t believe my husband “provides” my life.

I believe we CREATE our life together.

He contributes. I contribute.

He brings his strengths. I bring mine.

And neither of us needs to diminish our own power in order to honour the other person’s.

Gratitude and indebtedness are not the same thing.

I can be deeply grateful for everything my husband does without believing that I owe him my life in return.

Because my life is mine.

My motherhood is mine.

My creativity is mine.

And the life we have created together belongs to BOTH of us.

When you stop living from the story that you owe someone for the life you have, you expand your capacity to actually experience the life you’re creating.

And my love…

Your life is your creation. 🤍

Women are not meant to do life alone.Not just in the light, easy moments… But in the quiet transitions, the identity sh...
16/05/2026

Women are not meant to do life alone.

Not just in the light, easy moments…
But in the quiet transitions, the identity shifts, the parts of life that don’t have language yet.

There’s a kind of connection that goes beyond friendship.
Not louder. Not more intense.
Just… Deeper.

Where you don’t have to perform.
Where you can say the real thing - Even if it comes out messy and it’s met with presence, not fixing.

Where women don’t compete or compare…
They recognise each other.

I think a lot of us are craving that.
But we’ve gotten used to staying on the surface.
Keeping things light.
Not wanting to be “too much.”

So this is a quiet invitation -

To soften the walls just a little.
To say the honest thing when it matters.
To let yourself be seen in small, real ways.

Not all at once.
Not forced.
Just enough to open the door.

Because when one woman goes first…
It gives another woman permission to meet her there.

And maybe that’s how we find each other again.

🤎

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02/05/2026

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Standards are easy when life is calm.When the kids are screaming, your partner is triggering you, your business feels he...
22/04/2026

Standards are easy when life is calm.
When the kids are screaming, your partner is triggering you, your business feels heavy, and your body is tight…

That’s where they actually matter.

Because your standards aren’t proven in your intentions.
They’re proven in your response under pressure.

This is the work no one wants to talk about -
Holding your tone when you want to snap
Holding your boundaries when it feels uncomfortable
Holding yourself when everything in you wants to escape

That’s not perfection.
That’s capacity.

And the woman who can hold more…
Gets to have more.

Close the tab.
Regulate.
Follow through.

This is your edge. Walk it.

🤎

21/04/2026

Life isn’t the problem.
Your capacity is.

And no that’s not an insult.
It’s the doorway.

Because when your system is maxed out,
everything feels like too much…
The noise, the kids, the relationship, the decisions, the expectations.

Not because it is too much -
But because there’s no room left to hold it.

So you either shut down,
snap,
or start thinking something is wrong with your life.

But it’s not your life that needs fixing.

It’s your ability to hold more of it.

That’s the work.
Not less responsibility.
Not less emotion.
Not a quieter life.

More capacity.

Close the tab.
Regulate.
Finish the thing.

Build a nervous system that can actually hold the life you say you want.

🤎

You don’t rise to your goals.You fall to your nervous system.So when pressure hits… You default.Not to your potential -B...
10/04/2026

You don’t rise to your goals.
You fall to your nervous system.

So when pressure hits… You default.
Not to your potential -
But to what you can actually hold.

This isn’t a discipline problem.
It’s capacity.

Power = stability under pressure.

🤎

Regulation without nervous system authoritykeeps you calm enough to cope…But still stuck in the same patterns.You feel b...
08/04/2026

Regulation without nervous system authority
keeps you calm enough to cope…
But still stuck in the same patterns.

You feel better for a moment -
Then something small happens and you’re right back in it.

Not because you’re broken.
Because you’ve learnt how to regulate your state…
But not lead yourself through it.

Regulation is a tool.
Authority is who’s in charge.

And if your nervous system is still leading… Nothing actually changes.

You don’t need more tools.
You need the capacity to hold yourself in it.

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02/04/2026

You’re not “just overwhelmed.”

You’re predictable.

The second something feels uncomfortable…
you run the same pattern.

Every. Single. Time.

Avoid.
Over-function.
Or shut down.

And then you wonder
why nothing actually changes.

Because you’re not lacking tools.

You’re avoiding responsibility.

Tell me your pattern 👇🏼🤎

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