19/10/2026
A tantrum can tell us what a child doesn’t yet have the words to say.
“I’m overwhelmed.”
“I need help.”
“I’m tired.”
“I wanted to feel heard.”
When feelings become too much, behaviour can communicate an unmet need.
Looking beneath the tantrum helps us respond with curiosity and compassion.
We can hold a clear boundary while offering connection: “I won’t let you hit. I’m here to help.”
Next time, pause and ask: “What might my child be needing right now?”
Understanding the need gives us somewhere to begin.
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