26/08/2026
In Co-Active coaching, the balance principle holds that our choices involve trade-offs: "If we're saying yes to this, what are we saying no to?" (and vice versa). This meaningful query helps us carefully consider preferences, set limits, and manage our lives intentionally.
Every "yes" to a project, demand, or habit is implicitly a "no" to hobbies, family, or vibrancy. So moving away from a "default yes" allows us to coordinate our actions with our core values.
When I wanted to study Positive Psychology, I imagined the class load would be onerous, estimating the time obligation at about 20 hours per week over two years. So I asked, "What could I relinquish to make this possible?" In the end, my family affably agreed to (mostly) cook our evening meals, freeing me to roll along.
Yesterday, Virginia asked me to collect her from the airport in the wee hours, and saying yes meant sacrificing a little sleep - an easy decision after a week apart.
For this week, rather than rushing to a yes or no, please explore what each choice would give you and what it would cost you.
Remember, we are here, and we are listening.
Love, Tiffani
Gulp, I notice I am holding the book upside down, but saying yes to a reshoot will make me late for gym!
