16/06/2026
ASSUMPTION - as my dad would say Assume is ass-u-me and it often will have you making an ass of you and me.
It quietly destroys more relationships than most people realise.
Whether it’s dating, friendships, family, or colleagues…
People get triggered and immediately create a story.
“He hasn’t replied because he’s losing interest.”
“She’s being distant because she doesn’t care.”
“They’re judging me.”
“They’re avoiding me.”
Maybe.
But maybe you’ve just filled in the blanks with your own fears.
Insight says:
“Here’s something I’m noticing. Is that true for you?”
Assumption says:
“I’ve decided what’s true.”
One creates connection.
The other creates distance.
Curiosity sounds like:
“Tell me more.”
“Help me understand.”
“What was happening for you?”
Assumption sounds like:
“I know why you did that.”
And that’s where relationships often go wrong.
People stop getting to know each other and start relating to their own projections.
The healthiest relationships aren’t built on mind-reading.
They’re built on curiosity.
Because there is a huge difference between seeking to understand someone…
And assuming you already do.