05/09/2026
Becoming a mum is beautiful, but there are SO many changes happening at the same time… and some of them we don’t really connect to what might be happening in our intimacy.
I remember after giving birth, when I tried pe*******on again, it literally felt like hitting a wall.
I genuinely thought they stitched it too tight đź«Ł
What I didn’t understand at the time was that my pelvic area had just been through A LOT, and my body was guarding. What I was experiencing was vaginismus, an involuntary tightening where you can mentally want pe*******on, but your body is basically saying nope, we’re not opening.
Then we add:
The hormonal shift
The lack of sleep
Your pelvic floor recovering
Maybe breastfeeding
Being touched and needed ALL day (not intentional touch)
Your body looking and feeling different
Your brain suddenly responsible for keeping this tiny human alive
OF COURSE INTIMACY MIGHT FEEL DIFFERENT FOR A WHILE.
And I don’t say this to make motherhood sound negative at all, actually becoming a mum was actually one of the experiences that made me connect with my body and intuition in a completely different way.
But the thing is that our relationship with intimacy can change too.
Maybe desire feels different.
Maybe you need much longer to get turned on
Maybe you’re thinking about your body more than feeling it
Maybe pe*******on feels different or uncomfortable
Maybe your brain simply won’t switch off
It doesn’t necessarily mean that something is wrong or that you’ve “lost” that part of yourself.
You’re getting to know your body in a completely new season of your life.
Take this as an opportunity and you can start asking:
“What does my body need now?”
And one important thing: pain during s*x can have different physical and medical causes. If pe*******on is painful or difficult, please don’t assume you just need to relax or push through it. A doctor or pelvic-health physio can help you understand what’s actually happening.
