Evolve Elevate Fly - Sobriety & DV Speaker

Evolve Elevate Fly - Sobriety & DV Speaker Change is from Within. I created a safe community for survivors

I am a British & Australian qualified Remedial Massage Therapist, Private TESOL/TEFL ESL English Tutor, Life Transformation & Empowerment Public Speaker leading an alcohol-free healing life.

14/06/2026

How I created JOY in my classrooms whilst surviving a male who was choosing to covertly abuse me behind closed doors 🚪 🪩💃🏼🦸🏼‍♀️✨️

I found that when I named what he (and they) had chosen to do, had real words for his behaviour, character, and chosen a...
14/06/2026

I found that when I named what he (and they) had chosen to do, had real words for his behaviour, character, and chosen actions, I could start to process the confusion and pain. I found my voice again. I was invited to speak on stages as a Lived Experience Victim Survivor. I found a worldwide community of women who just UNDERSTAND from their own lived experiences. We all have chosen ourselves and bravery, some with extremely careful documented action plans to try to leave safely. You see, abusers choose to abuse, and they love to try dim the light of women who are strong, successful, and sparkle like glitter balls 🪩 I went from being a sponsored elite athlete about to get my Professional Licence, to a heap on the floor surviving panic attacks isolated, with him telling me not to listen to my friends or therapist who were telling me to leave. If a man says his "Ex is crazy, unstable, emotional, bitter, withholding the children from him", goddess please run! This man is wearing a mask of charm, wanting your sympathy because you are a kind soul, creating an illusion that you may fall for because of the intensity of all the sweet words and being put on a pedestal and gifts and fake promises and future faking. You are his next supply that he has targeted. Not because you are weak, but because you have something that he can use to make himself look better. He chooses to trap women by marriage, children, and shared businesses. Real men love women for who they are, not how good they make him appear standing next to you. His entire performance is built on lies due to his unbearable shame inside him from childhood.

7 YEARS of choosing Sobriety and an alcohol-free LIFE 🏝✨️ Breaking generational cycles and patterns.👩🏼‍🏫 I will continue...
19/05/2026

7 YEARS of choosing Sobriety and an alcohol-free LIFE 🏝✨️ Breaking generational cycles and patterns.

👩🏼‍🏫 I will continue to use my voice boldly and educate systems & institutions on the signs of Domestic Violence/DARVO/Coercive Control/Psychological & Emotional abuse 💥

😘 I will continue to help other females set themselves free safely 🙏🏾

It ends with us.

Change is happening and no longer will we tolerate in silence what the generations before us did. 😉🦸🏼‍♀️👑

Remember, only Yes means Yes. Everything else is r**e and abuse. Education on consent and respect begins in childhood. "...
30/04/2026

Remember, only Yes means Yes. Everything else is r**e and abuse. Education on consent and respect begins in childhood. "No" is not an excuse to negotiate or try to persuade or convince. Silence, freezing, not fighting back, laying limp to try survive, being in a relationship now or in the past is not consent. Resistance isn't permission. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, and needs to be respected safely.
Abuse thrives in silence, and many women now will never be silenced again. 🙏🏾✨️🌴🌊💕

Last year, at The Disruption Conference, hosted by the DVPC/DVIR in the Gold Coast Australia, I spoke on stage in front ...
03/03/2026

Last year, at The Disruption Conference, hosted by the DVPC/DVIR in the Gold Coast Australia, I spoke on stage in front of hundreds, as a Lived Experience Voice and Survivor. We educated the government, police, institutions, and organisations on what really happens behind closed doors (not the lies you hear) 🚪

Male violence (emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, financial, legal, coercive control, narcissism) is systemic. Misogyny and patriarchal behaviours are embedded in society, and even some females enable and are complicit. This is not OK.

Shame must change sides. Males must learn how to behave safely and respectfully. Women create safe circles to empower each other, to care for children, the young, and the vulnerable. Every female I know has at some point in her childhood or life been harassed, degraded, shamed, critised, sexualised, harmed .. for being a female. By males.

This is the responsibility of males, to seek help/therapy, heal their childhood wounds and traumas, and show up in the world as safer kinder beings. To access their emotional world with support, to change narratives - yes, crying, understanding your emotions and feeling - is healthy, not something to be punished for.

Males who should have protected me in my life, I needed protection from. I have survived every single type of abUse, from male 'family', 'fiancés', 'bosses', 'strangers' and 'friends'.

Most recently, a male Tinder date strAngled me, and a male Muay Thai instructor also strAngled me, on CCTV. Non-Fatal StrAngulation is horrific.
Females wonder if they will get r@ped and k on their first date, while males fear she will order a dessert and the bill will be expensive.

Males, it is time to step up and join us, access your inner world, and heal.

In 6 days, I will be RACING AGAIN in Indonesia 🏃🏼‍♀️ 🏁 👣 ⛰️ 🇮🇩 🏃🏼‍♀️ After surviving covert narcissism and unbelievable ...
02/02/2026

In 6 days, I will be RACING AGAIN in Indonesia 🏃🏼‍♀️ 🏁 👣 ⛰️ 🇮🇩 🏃🏼‍♀️

After surviving covert narcissism and unbelievable betrayals and trauma, from men who were supposed to protect me from harm, I didn't feel that I was ever going to get my spirit back, and do what I love. I thought I'd lost a piece of my soul, and I wouldn't be able to access it again.

It's taken so much energy to rebuild my soul, everything that was drained from me, rebuilding my life from the bottom again (choosing to be homeless in 2024, rather than endure, tolerate or enable the psychological abuse I survived from the man with the mask who mirrored 🪞 my light, sobriety, empathy, love, and used me, after targetting me).

I won't be silenced ever again, and I use my voice clearly and speak the truth.

I am starting with a small distance 🏃🏼‍♀️ but one thing is for sure, I am back 🔥

Welcome to all women who identify as lived-experience survivors. You are radiant, resilient, and more than enough. I’ve ...
12/12/2025

Welcome to all women who identify as lived-experience survivors. You are radiant, resilient, and more than enough. I’ve created this safe, compassionate, loving, and empowering global community so we can stand together in solidarity. There is deep ancient strength and profound innate magic within every one of you, and together we elevate our wholeness.

Through movement, connection, small moments of joy, shared adventures, time in nature, music, dancing, laughter, creation, rest, play, or training side-by-side in the gym - you are never alone. Enough is enough. Together, we breathe, remember our worth, reclaim our voices, and rise into the fullness of who we are, witnessing and showing up for one another.

I am a survivor of many forms of ab*se and violence from men. I am qualified through The Academy of Modern Applied Psychology and have spoken on multiple public stages across Australia - including for the DVPC/DVIR and the Queensland Government - sharing my journey of survival, therapy, healing, self-reflection, unsafe childhood experiences from males, choosing a substance-free life, using sport as an international elite triathlete to cope, and ultimately walking away from all men who caused harm.

My mission now is to rise alongside other women as we reclaim our power, our voices, our magic, our peace, and our futures.

The greatest compliment one can receive ❤️ I wasn't raised in emotional safety, loving support or real protection, but I...
22/10/2025

The greatest compliment one can receive ❤️
I wasn't raised in emotional safety, loving support or real protection, but I sure have worked hard on myself so others feel safe in my energy and presence 🫂♥️✨️🙏🏾☀️🌞💗

G.R.A.T.I.T.U.D.E. for most chapters of my story 💛 Even thankful for some, that hurt the most, because my light guided m...
06/10/2025

G.R.A.T.I.T.U.D.E. for most chapters of my story 💛 Even thankful for some, that hurt the most, because my light guided me beyond ✨️

There are days that I wish that I hadn't fallen for the future-faking, mirroring, spell of the masked man who created an illusion through performance 🎭 ~ I left my sport because my nervous system and emotional health (and injuries too) weren't allowing me to live in a healthy way. I was isolated and back in survival mode. This couldn't be happening AGAIN? But, the Universe needed me to see and feel the truth.

Had I not have met him, would I have got my Professional Triathlon Licence as planned? Who knows. The Universe knew that I was ready to learn the hardest lesson of them all; that every relationship I got into, reflected my unhealed father wound. The little girl so desperate for real, true, safe, healthy love didn't see all the glaringly obvious signs from the beginning 🚨 I wasn't to know, and it wasn't my fault. I was subconsciously attracted to men similar to my childhood environment. It happens to SO very many of us, and then we become aware.

Choosing to walk away and heal was the bravest decision. Choosing to educate myself and now speak ON STAGES about my lived experiences to help others, takes unbelievable courage. Choosing every day to believe in my strength, resilience and magic, and stand up for myself, and say, "No/This isn't kind/That's not funny/That's inappropriate/That hurts/That's a lie/That's projection" .. and face the consequences of finally having A VOICE. I tell my story, so others can have hope, that there is a way out. Maybe not right now, but when enough is enough.

And when you crawl through shards of your own darkness and through the flames, alight, and survive and flourish on the other side, you rise and can never un-see the truth ✨️✨️🙏🏾🦸🏼‍♀️🧚🏼‍♀️🧞‍♀️💃🏼 Thank you for showing me that character, patterns, and genuine energy are to be trusted, not words 😊 😀 ❤️ I have embraced and faced everything bad that has happened to me, and will continue to speak UP 🫂✨️🙏🏾😘☀️

08/09/2025

We are not whispers, we stand united speaking the truth 🙌 💓🎤❤️

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