Evolve Elevate Fly - Sobriety & DV Speaker

Evolve Elevate Fly - Sobriety & DV Speaker Change is from Within. I created a safe community for survivors

I am a British & Australian qualified Remedial Massage Therapist, Private TESOL/TEFL ESL English Tutor, Life Transformation & Empowerment Public Speaker leading an alcohol-free healing life.

02/09/2026

📢🔊 Are you curious enough to try to understand? 📢🔊

23/08/2026

S.H.I.N.E anyway

15/08/2026

DARVO

Deny Attack Reverse Victim Offender

A manipulation tactic to deflect from the harm caused, and to rewrite the narrative, and flip the script onto the person they harmed. This pattern of gaslighting is often experienced in behind closed doors coercively controlling dynamics - with the person causing the harm often wearing a very different public performance mask (generous, caring, charming, acting 'concerned', whilst behind the scenes they make the victim feel "unstable", "crazy" and very confused). Remember, their untruthful accusations are projections and confessions of their own behaviour.

13/08/2026

I am now working with clients as an accredited Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach. If you are ready to safely start healing and building your awareness slowly and safely, I am here to work with you. I have the lived experiences too, to empathise with your reality. Please do get in contact when you are ready 🙏🏾 ✨️

Thank you. Thank you that I am 2 years free of a man who lied to me, stole from me, accused me of all the psychological ...
28/07/2026

Thank you. Thank you that I am 2 years free of a man who lied to me, stole from me, accused me of all the psychological violence that he was in fact inflicting on me. Thank you that I didn't marry into Domestic Violence. Thank you that I am now educated on DARVO and coercive control having lived through covert narcissism and horrific projections. Thank you that I now help other women leave safely, and to recognise the behaviours, patterns, and characters.
Thank you that I chose to be homeless instead of one more day of a man choosing to abuse me behind closed doors and use me. He targeted another new supply quickly love-bombing her, wearing his public mask, very very quickly; and we all pray that she too finds the courage to see through the confusion and gaslighting. We are not "crazy", "unstable", "overreacting", "disrespectful" .. you were abusing us. And no, hiding my car keys was not normal behaviour, you chose to abuse.

28/07/2026

Thank you. Thank you that I am 2 years free of a man who lied to me, stole from me, accused me of all the psychological violence that he was in fact inflicting on me. Thank you that I didn't marry into Domestic Violence. Thank you that I am now educated on DARVO and coercive control having lived through covert narcissism and horrific projections. Thank you that I now help other women leave safely, and to recognise the behaviours, patterns, and characters.
Thank you that I chose to be homeless instead of one more day of a man choosing to abuse me behind closed doors and use me. He targeted another new supply quickly love-bombing her, wearing his public mask, very very quickly; and we all pray that she too finds the courage to see through the confusion and gaslighting. We are not "crazy", "unstable", "overreacting", "disrespectful" .. you were abusing us. And no, hiding my car keys was not normal behaviour, you chose to abuse.

14/06/2026

How I created JOY in my classrooms whilst surviving a male who was choosing to covertly abuse me behind closed doors 🚪 🪩💃🏼🦸🏼‍♀️✨️

I found that when I named what he (and they) had chosen to do, had real words for his behaviour, character, and chosen a...
14/06/2026

I found that when I named what he (and they) had chosen to do, had real words for his behaviour, character, and chosen actions, I could start to process the confusion and pain. I found my voice again. I was invited to speak on stages as a Lived Experience Victim Survivor. I found a worldwide community of women who just UNDERSTAND from their own lived experiences. We all have chosen ourselves and bravery, some with extremely careful documented action plans to try to leave safely. You see, abusers choose to abuse, and they love to try dim the light of women who are strong, successful, and sparkle like glitter balls 🪩 I went from being a sponsored elite athlete about to get my Professional Licence, to a heap on the floor surviving panic attacks isolated, with him telling me not to listen to my friends or therapist who were telling me to leave. If a man says his "Ex is crazy, unstable, emotional, bitter, withholding the children from him", goddess please run! This man is wearing a mask of charm, wanting your sympathy because you are a kind soul, creating an illusion that you may fall for because of the intensity of all the sweet words and being put on a pedestal and gifts and fake promises and future faking. You are his next supply that he has targeted. Not because you are weak, but because you have something that he can use to make himself look better. He chooses to trap women by marriage, children, and shared businesses. Real men love women for who they are, not how good they make him appear standing next to you. His entire performance is built on lies due to his unbearable shame inside him from childhood.

7 YEARS of choosing Sobriety and an alcohol-free LIFE 🏝✨️ Breaking generational cycles and patterns.👩🏼‍🏫 I will continue...
19/05/2026

7 YEARS of choosing Sobriety and an alcohol-free LIFE 🏝✨️ Breaking generational cycles and patterns.

👩🏼‍🏫 I will continue to use my voice boldly and educate systems & institutions on the signs of Domestic Violence/DARVO/Coercive Control/Psychological & Emotional abuse 💥

😘 I will continue to help other females set themselves free safely 🙏🏾

It ends with us.

Change is happening and no longer will we tolerate in silence what the generations before us did. 😉🦸🏼‍♀️👑

Remember, only Yes means Yes. Everything else is r**e and abuse. Education on consent and respect begins in childhood. "...
30/04/2026

Remember, only Yes means Yes. Everything else is r**e and abuse. Education on consent and respect begins in childhood. "No" is not an excuse to negotiate or try to persuade or convince. Silence, freezing, not fighting back, laying limp to try survive, being in a relationship now or in the past is not consent. Resistance isn't permission. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, and needs to be respected safely.
Abuse thrives in silence, and many women now will never be silenced again. 🙏🏾✨️🌴🌊💕

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