Hi, I'm Idi Pimenta, transforming the way we live and love is my passion and my specialty Contact me for heart-centred support, grounded in relational neuroscience Autonomy and Intimacy 💞
The most common problem I see in my practice, are clients who didn't or couldn't individuate from their family of origin. Relational trauma being the most common interruptive element of this important developm
ental task. The process of self-realisation is the key to our emotional maturity and renders us able to balance our desire to please another with our drive to do what feels right for ourselves. Hi my name is Idi Pimenta and I am a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Psycho-biological Approach to Couples Therapy Practitioner, Relational Life Therapist and an Integral Somatic Psychology Practitioner, with a Master of Counselling and a Social Work degree background. Developmental trauma often plays out in our adult relationships because its relational. Early relational experiences are encoded in neural circuity in the first 18 months of life can be reinforced thereafter. Stored as implicit (unconscious) memory, they are inaccessible by ordinary awareness, forming templates through which we engage in the world. In a moment of activation, the templates automatically come surging online and floods our perception. These patterns persist through life as the force that shapes our adult love relationships. Until a person has individuated, it is nearly impossible for them to have a satisfying romantic relationship. To fulfill our greatest potential requires us to differentiate so that we can experience autonomy from others and intimacy with others. One key step to accomplish this is that we must individuate. Poor individuation, through no fault of our own, can lead to a number of problems and indicators of trauma. Some of these include:
• Difficulty with emotional regulation
• Anxiety and Depression
• Difficulty with boundaries
• One sided relationships
• Self doubt
• Low satisfaction with one's life
• Low self empathy and self consideration
• Self-consciousness, low self-worth, and low self-esteem
• Vulnerability to unconscious trauma bond dynamics or unsafe relationships
• Self abandonment
• Poor decision making
• Difficulty with self-awareness, self-reflection and self-direction
• Problems with motivation and goal-setting
These symptoms are biologically based and somatically experienced. They're coloured by unconscious conditioning, and we might continue to repeat behaviours that helped us survive our childhoods, but that sadly abandon us in adulthood, and sabotage our adult relationships. The quality of our relationship to ourselves and others determines the quality of our lives. Relationships are everything. Transforming the way we live and love is my passion and my specialty. Contact me for heart-centred work grounded in relational neuro-science, for individuals, and couples as well as Clinical Supervision education and mentoring for professionals. Phone: (+61)410 680 642, click the Message button or email [email protected] to set up a FREE, confidential, no obligation 15-minute phone consultation. Zoom is also an option if you're out of town. PLEASE NOTE:
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