A Healing Intention by Arjuna

A Healing Intention by Arjuna Naturopath, Nutritionist & Herbalist, Reiki Master, Bach Flower Remedies, Homeopathy, Iridology

02/06/2026

A pattern I notice often with women struggling with libido is that their nervous system rarely gets a genuine opportunity to slow down. The day is usually filled with work, messages, family responsibilities, planning, organising and constantly thinking about what needs to happen next.

By the time evening arrives, many women are physically tired but still mentally alert, and it becomes difficult for the body to shift into a state where intimacy or desire feels accessible.

A simple place to start is creating one small pocket of stillness in the day where your body is not processing constant stimulation. That might look like sitting outside quietly for a few minutes, eating without multitasking, walking without listening to anything, or allowing yourself moments where you are not immediately responding to someone or something else.

Those quieter moments can help create a greater sense of safety and regulation in the body over time, and that often has a flow-on effect into libido as well.

31/05/2026

Arjuna explores how perimenopause can shift the way many women experience pleasure, intimacy and desire. It often becomes a time of questioning what genuinely feels enjoyable and supportive, rather than continuing patterns based on expectation, performance or routine.

For many women, this stage becomes an opportunity to reconnect with pleasure in a more personal and meaningful way.

29/05/2026

Arjuna shares that during perimenopause, libido changes are not always just about oestrogen. As progesterone declines, many women feel more wired, tired and emotionally sensitive, which can make desire much harder to access. Certain hormonal medications may also influence the hormones involved in libido and desire.

One of the things that comes up often in conversations around libido is how quickly women blame themselves when desire c...
27/05/2026

One of the things that comes up often in conversations around libido is how quickly women blame themselves when desire changes. Usually by the time we’re talking about it, they’ve already spent months wondering whether something is wrong with them, whether they’re too stressed, too tired, too disconnected, or whether this is simply what happens as you get older.

But when we slow the conversation down properly, there is usually a much bigger picture sitting underneath it. Sleep has changed. Stress has been sitting in the body for years. Hormones are shifting.

The nervous system has been running in a constant state of responsiveness for so long that there is very little space left for pleasure, intimacy, or even feeling connected to themselves.

This is why I approach libido through the lens of the whole person, not just one symptom in isolation.
If this is something you’ve been navigating and you’re wanting support that looks at hormones, nervous

system health and the deeper drivers underneath it all, you can book here:
https://a-healing-intention-by-arjuna.simplecliniconline.com/diary

One thing that is often overlooked in conversations around libido is how closely desire is connected to nourishment and ...
25/05/2026

One thing that is often overlooked in conversations around libido is how closely desire is connected to nourishment and energy availability in the body.

By the time many women reach their 40s, meals have often become rushed, inconsistent, or built around convenience rather than actual nourishment. Breakfast may be light, lunch gets delayed, and many women are running on coffee, stress, and very little support across the day without fully realising the effect this can have over time.

During perimenopause, certain nutrients become increasingly important because they help support the systems involved in hormones, mood, circulation, energy production, and nervous system regulation, all of which influence libido in indirect but important ways.

Some examples include:
• Zinc, found in pumpkin seeds, oysters, red meat, and legumes, which supports hormone health and testosterone production
• Omega-3 fats from salmon, sardines, chia seeds, and walnuts, which help support mood, circulation, and nervous system function
• Magnesium from leafy greens, dark chocolate, almonds, and avocado, which supports stress regulation and sleep
• Protein from eggs, fish, tofu, Greek yoghurt, chicken, and lentils, which helps support energy, muscle health, and hormone production
• Iron-rich foods such as red meat, spinach, and lentils, which can help support energy when stores are low

A simple day of meals could look like:

Breakfast: Eggs on sourdough with avocado and sautéed spinach
Lunch: Salmon bowl with quinoa, leafy greens, olive oil, and pumpkin seeds
Dinner: Lamb or lentil bowl with roasted vegetables and tahini dressing

This is not about eating “perfectly” or trying to force change through food alone. It is more about supporting the body consistently so it has the resources it needs to feel more energised, resilient, and responsive overall.

Many women notice that when nourishment improves, energy, mood, and connection to their body often begin shifting alongside it.

24/05/2026

The noise fades. And suddenly, you feel it — something is off about what you’ve been chasing.

Not wrong. Just... not yours.

When our emotional roadmaps get distorted in childhood, we don’t just inherit beliefs — we inherit hungers. Cravings for things that were never really ours to want and these can start to rear their head in perimenopause and show up in spaces like desire and libido.

This can look like a need for approval or not voicing your “no”. A setting aside your deepest needs for your partner or making ourselves believe that *this* is what we love.

In these moments, I encourage stillness as it has a way of telling the truth. In stillness we are not going to abandon ourselves for others, we can take the time to be present with ourselves, pause and choose our next steps.

Often issues with desire and libido simmer away, but our biological and physiological changes that happen in peri, demand our attention. It waits — until you’re ready to hear the difference between what you genuinely desire and what you were taught to need.

If you’re in that quiet right now, let it speak.
This is the work. 🤍

A lot of women describe this change in ways that are actually very similar once the conversation opens up properly.They ...
23/05/2026

A lot of women describe this change in ways that are actually very similar once the conversation opens up properly.

They might say they still love their partner, but they do not feel desire in the same spontaneous way anymore. Or that intimacy feels like something that now requires more time, energy, or emotional space than it used to. Sometimes it is less about libido disappearing completely and more about feeling mentally full by the end of the day.

What is important to recognise is that these changes are often happening alongside many others at the same time.

Women in their 40s are frequently balancing a very different mental, emotional, and physical load than they were earlier in life. Sleep changes, stress accumulates differently, hormones shift, and there is often very little time where the body feels genuinely rested.

Under those conditions, it makes sense that intimacy and desire may begin to feel different too.

Have you noticed changes in your libido or the way intimacy feels in this stage of life? Feel free to share in the comments below.

21/05/2026

Arjuna shares that pleasure and intimacy can feel very different during perimenopause. As hormones shift, emotional needs, tolerance and the way connection is experienced can also change. Things that once felt normal may no longer feel aligned, which can bring up new questions around intimacy, boundaries and desire.

Giving yourself permission to notice what genuinely feels supportive, comfortable and enjoyable now, without comparing it to the past, can be an important part of this transition. Changing needs during perimenopause are not unusual, they are often part of the body asking for a different kind of support and connection.

What often happens is that women spend a long time trying to make sense of these changes on their own before they speak ...
19/05/2026

What often happens is that women spend a long time trying to make sense of these changes on their own before they speak about them properly.

They may notice that intimacy feels different, or that they do not feel as connected to themselves physically as they once did. Sometimes it gets brushed aside as stress, being busy, getting older, or simply something to push through and not think too deeply about.

But once the broader picture is explored, there is usually much more sitting underneath it.

Sleep has often changed. Stress feels more constant or cumulative. Energy becomes less reliable. The nervous system is carrying a different load. Relationship dynamics may have shifted as well, including whether there is actually space for intimacy to exist amongst everything else life is demanding.

This is why libido is rarely approached as one isolated issue on its own.

In clinic, the focus is on understanding what the body has been adapting to over time, rather than looking only at the symptom itself. From there, support is tailored in a way that feels realistic and sustainable for where someone is now.

If this is something you have been noticing in yourself, consultations can be booked here:
https://a-healing-intention-by-arjuna.simplecliniconline.com/diary

18/05/2026

Let’s talk about something that hardly figures in the perimenopause conversation — your desire.

And yes it’s hormones but that’s only part of the story…

So many things shape your desire in peri:
→ Trauma
→ Pain during s*x
→ Your relationship with your body
→ Past s*xual experiences
→ How you feel about yourself right now

So when I work with clients, I will nearly always start with You. Your pleasure. Your needs.

Our s*xuality isn’t separate from our nature — it is our nature. The sacred feminine is creative, sensual, alive. Perimenopause doesn’t diminish that. It deepens it.

💬 Drop a ✨ if this is something you want to talk about more.

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