08/08/2026
That after-school behaviour you might find challenging could actually be their way of decompressing after using up all their spoons for the day.
After a whole day of masking, managing noise, social demands, rules and emotions, home is often their safe zone. Some children might withdraw, others might need to move, eat, seek connection, or just have some quiet time. Let’s tune into their cues and respond safely to what they’re trying to tell us. 💜
If your child walks out of the school gate and immediately falls apart, that's not bad behaviour, and it isn't a reflection on you...
There's a name for it. Restraint collapse. All day they've been managing noise, rules, friendships, emotions and sitting still. You are the safest person in their whole world, so you're where all of it gets put down.
Week three of term is peak season. What might actually help is less talking. Replenishing with some food in the afternoon.
Ten minutes of nothing before you ask a single question about their day. Perhaps the debrief can wait until dinner 🍽️