The Bigger Picture Clinic

07/06/2026

Welcoming Kosi to The Bigger Picture Clinic ✨

Hello, I am Kosi, a person-centered and humanistic social worker with a passion for empowering people by utilising focused psychological strategies and evidence-based approaches. My work is grounded in understanding you within the context of your life, experiences, relationships, and values. My work with you is not about “fixing” you, but about supporting growth, healing, and self-understanding in a way that honours who you are.

Arears I specialize in

Grief, Loss and Bereavement
Low self esteem
Depression and anxiety
Burnout, stress or feeling Overwhelmed
Trauma and nervous system dysregulation
Addiction and recovery
Life transitions and periods of change


Who I work with best

I work with adults experiencing depression, grief, anxiety, trauma, work-related stress, self-esteem issues and social deficits. I thrive in supporting diverse range of people differing in culture, religious belief, sexual orientation, and gender identity.

My clinical philosophy

I aim to create a safe, collaborative and judgment-free space for clients with a wide range of presentations to better understand and reach their goals. I bring curiosity, authenticity, compassion, and humour to sessions.

Professional background

I have over 20 years of experience working in multinational, non-for-profit, state and federal government settings. My previous roles include working as an organizational development consultant, human resource business partner, clinician, practice lead, and program manager. I am a dad to two and a deeply curious person.

Qualifications

Master of Social Work, University of Melbourne

Cognitive Behavior Therapy, The Association of Psychological Therapies

Motivational Interviewing

ASIST Su***de Prevention Training Program

Master of Business Administration

02/06/2026

Welcoming Melissa Jane to The Bigger Picture Clinic.

Hey, I’m Melissa Jane.
I’ve spent almost 40 years in the clinical and holistic beauty and wellness industry, but my work is shaped by more than skin — it’s shaped by lived experience, womanhood, hormones, healing and learning how to come home to my body again.
I support women of all ages, with a strong focus on 35+, through the changes that can affect your skin, body, confidence and nervous system.
My work centres around NeuroWellness and the Skin + Within™ Method — because skin is never just skin, and you are never just one symptom.
Areas I Specialise In
I specialise in skin, fascia, and nervous system support for women of all ages, with a strong focus on women aged 35+.
My work brings together hormonal skin changes (perimenopause, menopause and postmenopause; lipoedema and lymphatic concerns; gut-skin health; weight management; stress; burnout; facial tension; active ageing skin/body rejuvenation; and the nervous system). I specialise in “Facial Mastery”, including lymphatic and buccal facials. Body treatments that focus on the lymphatic system from the head to the toes. Muscle stimulation with EMs body suit, light therapy and sound healing. Treatments have one main focus to calm your nervous system, hydrate your skin, and remove the puffiness from your body. 

Through NeuroWellness and my MENOCENTRIC method, I look at the whole system — skin, hormones, fascia, lymphatics, nutrition, lifestyle and the nervous system — because lasting change rarely comes from treating the surface alone.
Who I Work Best With
I work best with women who feel like their skin, body or emotions have changed and they want a more complete approach than a standard facial. This may include women with lipodema, peri-menopause, menopause, post-menopause, stress, burnout, gut issues, weight changes or facial tension.

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27/05/2026

A lot of people think healing in relationships means finally finding the “right” person.

But often…
the deeper work is learning how to stop asking another person to carry wounds that were never theirs to heal.

Real love isn’t:
“Complete me.”
“Save me.”
“Fix what hurts inside of me.”

It’s:
“I’ll take responsibility for my healing…
while staying connected to you.”

That doesn’t mean we don’t need each other.
We absolutely do.

But healthy relationships are built when two people become willing to:

look at themselves honestly
communicate consciously
take ownership of their patterns
and grow alongside each other instead of demanding rescue from each other

Because eventually, every relationship will move beyond chemistry and fantasy.

And when it does…
what remains is the willingness to stay open, accountable, and emotionally present.

That’s the kind of love that tends to last.

And that’s where real intimacy begins. 💛

27/05/2026

13/05/2026

Nothing’s gone wrong.
You’ve just moved from fantasy into reality.

And this is where unresolved wounds usually enter the relationship.

The question isn’t:
“Did I choose the wrong person?”

Sometimes it’s:
“What keeps getting recreated inside of me?”

Part 3 coming soon 🤍

04/05/2026

Most of us don’t actually know what healthy love feels like…
we know what feels familiar.

And familiar doesn’t come from nowhere.
It’s shaped by what we experienced early on,
what was available, what was missing, what we had to adapt to.

So when we feel that instant pull toward someone…
it can feel like chemistry.

But often, it’s something deeper:

A recognition.
A pattern.
A part of us saying,
“this feels like something I’ve known before.”

That doesn’t make you broken.
It makes sense.

But it does mean this:

If we don’t become aware of it,
we’ll keep choosing dynamics that feel right…
but don’t actually meet us.

This is where the work begins.

Not in finding the “right” person…
but in understanding what we’ve been calling love.

Part 2 — Why this starts to hurt.

30/04/2026

Trauma doesn’t stay in the past.
It lives on in the nervous system… and in the parts of us that learned what love meant early on.

So when love shows up in the present,
it’s not just met by who you are today,
it’s met by the parts of you that remember.

And those parts may experience love as:

unsafe
unpredictable
something that has to be earned
something that could disappear
something that asks too much
or something that requires protection from

Not because you’re broken, but because, at some point, love didn’t feel safe.

So your system did exactly what it was designed to do.

It adapted.

Parts of you learned to shut down…
to overthink…
to cling…
to create distance…
to stay hyper-aware…
to protect, no matter the cost.

Not to sabotage love, but to help you survive what love once felt like.

From an IFS perspective, these are preventative parts.

They’re not the problem,
they’re trying to prevent you from feeling something that once overwhelmed you.

So when we say trauma blocks love,
it’s not that love is being rejected.

It’s that your system is protecting you from what love has meant before.

And here’s where healing begins.

Because those same parts can start to shift,
not through force,
not through insight alone,
but through safe, consistent, attuned connection.

Love, when it’s steady enough, safe enough,
can begin to earn the trust of those protective parts.

It can soften what has been guarded.
It can create new experiences that your system didn’t have before.

Because healing doesn’t just happen in the mind, it happens in relationship.

So yes…
trauma can block love.

But love, real, safe, regulated love can also be what heals it.

And that includes the relationship you build with yourself.

Because the more your parts feel seen,
not judged… not pushed away…
the less they have to protect.

And the more space love has to come through.

29/04/2026

If you keep finding yourself in the same patterns…it might not be a lack of willpower.

It might be a protective part of you choosing what feels familiar, predictable… safe enough.

Even when that place feels limiting or painful.

Because our nervous system isn’t focused on what’s best for us…it’s focused on what it knows.

And often, those patterns made sense at some point in your life.
They helped you cope, belong, stay safe.

So rather than trying to force change
or judge yourself for being “stuck”…

What if you got curious instead?

Curious about the part of you that keeps returning there…what it’s afraid might happen if things were different…what it might need from you now.

Because when those parts feel understood and witnessed, something begins to shift.

New possibilities don’t come from pushing harder… they come from creating enough internal safety to choose something different.

If this resonates, this is the work I do with my clients 🤍

27/04/2026

Most people come to therapy wanting to get rid of parts of themselves.

In Internal Family Systems…
we do the opposite.

We slow down.
We listen.
We get curious about why those parts exist.

Because nothing in you is random.

The parts of you you judge the most…
are often the ones working the hardest to protect you.

The overthinking.
The shutdown.
The reactivity.

They’re not problems to fix, they’re parts trying to help.

And underneath those protective parts…
there’s often something that’s been carrying pain for a long time.

Not because those parts are the pain…
but because they’ve had to hold it.

And when we stop shaming those parts
and start really listening…

something begins to soften.

You don’t have to fix yourself.
You just don’t have to be alone with it anymore.

If you’re ready to relate to yourself differently,
this is the work I do with my clients 🤍

20/04/2026

Kindness isn’t really shaped in the easy moments…it’s revealed in the ones that stretch us.

In the moments we feel activated misunderstood…or quietly overwhelmed.

The people closest to us don’t just experience our love, they come into contact with the parts of us that are still learning how to offer it.

And that isn’t about getting it perfect.
It’s about becoming a little more aware…
a little more honest…
in the moments it would be easier not to be.

Because the work isn’t only in how we move through the world…it’s in how we show up in the spaces that hold our history.