27/04/2026
FEEL YOUR FEELING THEY SAY
As if you know how.
As if it's that simple.
As if anyone ever taught you.
Here's what I want you to know, most people don't avoid their feelings out of weakness. They avoid them because nobody ever showed them how to go there safely. And the nervous system, brilliant as it is, learned early that certain feelings were too big, too much, too unwelcome.
So it did what it was designed to do.
It protected you.
That protection made sense then.
It may not be serving you now.
Feeling your feelings isn't a something you have the ability to you or don't.
It's a skill, a capacity, an allowing.
One that can be learned, slowly, with the right conditions and enough safety.
And the body is where we start.
Not in the mind.
Not in the story you've been telling about why you feel the way you do, or who caused it, or whether it's valid.
It's in the body.
Because the feelings that never got to move, that got shut down mid-breath or swallowed before they could surface, they didn't disappear. They went somewhere.
Your chest, your throat, your jaw, your stomach.
And simply, they've just been waiting there, patient and persistent, for someone to finally come and sit with them.
And honey, that someone is you.
This is what somatic work actually is, underneath all the language we use to describe it. It's learning to turn toward yourself.
It's going inside, and listening, noticing.
It's placing your hands on your body, and feeling for sensation to arise.
Sometimes it's asking, honestly and slowly.
"Where is the past still alive in me right now?" And then to wait.
And not to fix, or resolve, but to be with.
Because feelings don't need to be solved.
They need to be met.
When we meet a feeling with presence instead of resistance, something shifts.
That tight place in the chest softens.
The held breath releases.
The jaw softens.
That crunchy bit next to you heart loosens.
The part of you that has been bracing for years gets to, even briefly, let go.
This is how we feel.
Well, it's one of the ways.
This is you showing up for yourself.
Mind and body, in the same room, maybe for the first time in a long time.
You don't need to be in crisis for it to be useful.
You just need to be human.
And if you want support learning how to do this more deeply, in a space that's held and relational and safe, that's exactly what I'm here for.
Work with me at www.narladean.com
With love,
Narla
