17/03/2026
Many of us learn very early how to read a room. Before we answer a simple question, we scan the person asking it for tone, facial expression, body language.
Then we decide how honest it feels safe to be. Sometimes that means simplifying the story, sometimes it means leaving details out. Other times, it means giving any answer that will end the conversation quickly.
I’ve done this many times in service environments. I wanted to avoid the shift in energy that can happen when someone decides they don’t approve of you.
If you’ve ever watched a provider’s reaction before finishing a sentence, you know exactly what I mean. People who live outside the “default” mould become very good at this.
Q***r people.
Neurodivergent people.
S_x workers.
People from CALD backgrounds.
People who are anxious, intense, quiet, talkative, eccentric, socially awkward, fidgety, or simply a little different.
Many of us have learned how to make ourselves easier for others to digest, and I don’t want anyone feeling the need to do that in my chair.
No reading the room, no adjusting your story, and no wondering whether something about your life - or the way you present and behave - will be received poorly.
You can show up exactly as you are and know it will be met with respect.
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I’m a Registered Cosmetic Nurse based in Fairfield Victoria and serve suburbs in Melbourne’s inner north, including Northcote, Thornbury, Alphington, Ivanhoe, Heidelberg, Clifton Hill, and Fitzroy North.
This post is general information for consumers and is not a recommendation to seek prescription-only products. All medical and cosmetic procedures come with common side effects, as well as serious health risks, which should be discussed thoroughly in consultation, prior to commencement of any prescribed or non-prescribed treatment.
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