31/07/2026
"I want to relax perfect and breathe perfect."
A dancer said that to me last week. Perfectionist since she was a child, at school, in painting, in dancing, where anything less than perfect counted as failure. So she brings the same thing to her relaxation work and finishes tighter than she started.
We never worked on relaxing. She stood up, put a hand on her own thigh, and about ten minutes later the side she's always called her tight side was reading like her loose side.
Nothing was relaxed. She learned to read something her body has been doing thousands of times a day since she could walk.
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