Jade Addicott at SoulShift for Carers

19/10/2026

One of the things people don’t understand about parenting a child with complex needs is how quickly you’re expected to go from crisis mode to functioning like a normal human being.

You can spend the morning managing a meltdown, keeping everyone safe, holding back tears and trying to keep your own s**t together.

Then you’re expected to answer emails, make appointments, have conversations and carry on with your day.

And the hardest part?

Just because the crisis is over doesn’t mean your body has recovered from it.

Your heart might still be racing. Your stomach in knots. Your shoulders up around your ears.

And sometimes, before you’ve even had a chance to recover, the next crisis begins.

This is something I see constantly in my work as a somatic practitioner supporting special needs mums.

So many are living with nervous systems that barely get a chance to come down from high alert.

And it takes a toll. Physically, mentally and emotionally.

If this sounds familiar, I have free nervous system resources to help you find small moments of relief in the middle of it all.

Comment FREE and I’ll send you the link. 🤍

And I’d love to know, what’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve had to do straight after an absolutely horrific morning?

19/10/2026

Every PDA parent has had the Sunday lunch conversation. You explain it. They nod. Then they say you give in too much. 💛

Tag the parent who’s tired of explaining.

One more session tonight.

Hey 💚 there’s one more FREE PDA & Co-Regulation workshop on tonight at 8:30pm AEDT.

We’ll be talking about demand avoidance, nervous system responses, co-regulation, and what to do when both you and your child are getting overwhelmed.

You can register free here:
pda-co-regulation-workshop.subscribepage.io

If you can’t make it live, you’ll also get the 48-hour replay.

19/10/2026

🛑✋ QUICK BODY CHECK
Is your body still tense even though the chaos has stopped? 😂 Straighten one leg.
Point your toes away, then pull them gently back. Repeat 5 times. Swap legs. Notice how your muscles feel. I got you 😉

19/10/2026

🚨 WE'RE LIVE IN 30 MINUTES!!

If you've ever had to mentally rehearse how to ask your child to put their fu***ng shoes on, this workshop is for you. 😂😭

I'm running a FREE PDA & Co-Regulation Workshop TODAY, and we're talking about what actually happens when everyday demands feel threatening to our kids.

Why their capacity changes.

Why traditional parenting strategies can backfire.

What happens when BOTH nervous systems become overwhelmed.

And practical things that can actually help.

💚 12:30pm AEDT, starting in 30 minutes!
💚 8:30pm AEDT, second live session!
🎥 48-hour replay included.

You don't need a formal PDA diagnosis.

Register with link in the comments

Come join us! 💚

18/10/2026

What happens to these mums when they’re 60? Or 70?

Because something that’s been coming up in the comments on my posts lately is genuinely frightening.

So many carers are getting older with little to no superannuation.

Years, sometimes decades, out of the workforce because their child’s disability and support needs make employment impossible.

And it’s not just the money they aren’t earning today.

It’s the career progression they’ve missed. The financial independence. The savings they haven’t been able to build. The retirement contributions they never received.

Here in Australia, we’re talking about women who may have spent decades providing unpaid care, only to face retirement with very little financial security.

And this is happening in other countries too.

What happens if their marriage ends? If they become unwell? If they can no longer physically provide the care their child needs?

Who’s looking after them?

We talk a lot about the cost of disability.

But we don’t talk nearly enough about the lifetime cost to the people providing the care.

And the really fu**ed up part?

Many of these parents didn’t have a choice.

They couldn’t just find another job or work different hours. Someone had to be there when school wasn’t an option.

I want to hear from parents who’ve had to leave the workforce or significantly reduce their hours. What has it cost you?

Please share this. I want people outside the disability community to understand what’s actually happening.

Follow for Carers for more honest conversations about disability parenting and the invisible cost of caring. ❤️

18/10/2026

A child can look perfectly capable on paper while their entire family is barely holding it together at home.

And THIS is where I see so many families getting screwed over by the NDIS.

Because there’s a whole world of invisible work happening behind the scenes.

The constant planning. The cancelled appointments. The carefully managed routines. The negotiations. The recovery time. The things parents have completely stopped attempting because the fallout is just too fu***ng much.

And often, none of that makes it into the paperwork.

When you’re parenting an autistic child, particularly one with a PDA profile or significant demand avoidance, the amount of support happening behind the scenes can be enormous.

Yet so many parents have become so accustomed to doing it all that they don’t even recognise half of it as support anymore.

It’s just life. It’s what you do.

And THAT is why I am so passionate about helping families build strong NDIS evidence.

Because the reality of your child’s disability, and the impact on your entire family, deserves to be properly understood.

💚 NEED HELP WITH YOUR NDIS?

I support families with NDIS reviews, reassessments, advocacy and Carer Impact Statements, including identifying and strengthening the evidence needed to demonstrate disability-related support needs.

👇 Comment NDIS for details about my advocacy services.

💚 FREE PDA + CO-REGULATION WORKSHOP

Monday 19 October 2026
🕧 12:30pm or 8:30pm AEDT

We’ll explore demand avoidance, nervous system regulation and how to support BOTH your child and yourself.

Your child doesn’t need a PDA diagnosis to attend.

👇 Comment COREG for the free registration details.

❤️ Follow Jade Addicott | NDIS + Burnout Support for NDIS advocacy, autism and PDA parenting insights, and real conversations about carer burnout.

And please SHARE this with another parent navigating the NDIS. Sometimes the most important information is the stuff nobody thought to ask about.

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18/10/2026

18/10/2026

It's easy to call a child spoilt when you're not the one dealing with the aftermath.

It's easy to recommend consequences when you've never watched a simple request send a child into absolute distress.

And it's REALLY fu***ng easy to say "I'd never let my child behave like that" when you've never had to parent a child whose nervous system can interpret everyday demands as threats.

Here's what people don't understand about parenting children with PDA, autism and significant difficulties with emotional regulation.

Sometimes, what looks like permissive parenting is actually a parent making a thousand tiny decisions to prevent their child from becoming completely overwhelmed.

Sometimes, what looks like giving in is recognising that their child genuinely doesn't have the capacity to cope with another demand.

And sometimes, what looks like a child getting their own way is actually a family desperately trying to get through the day.

You know what really gets me?
The parents I work with aren't sitting around refusing to discipline their children.
They're researching. Learning. Adjusting. Second-guessing every decision. Sacrificing their own needs. Trying desperately to understand what their child is experiencing.

And many are so fu***ng exhausted they can barely remember what life felt like before every ordinary task became a negotiation.

Meanwhile, someone who spent 20 minutes with their child has apparently identified the problem.
Not enough discipline.
Fu***ng groundbreaking, Caroline. 👏

Here's the thing.
Boundaries still matter. Safety still matters. But demanding compliance from a child who's already overwhelmed isn't automatically teaching them anything.

Sometimes it's just adding more pressure to a nervous system that's already struggling.
And understanding that difference can change EVERYTHING.

💚 I'm running a FREE PDA + Co-Regulation Workshop on Monday 19 October, with two live sessions at 12:30pm and 8:30pm AEDT.
We'll explore why everyday parenting strategies can backfire, what's happening for BOTH nervous systems, and practical ways to support children who struggle with dysregulation.

Your child doesn't need a PDA diagnosis to benefit.

👇 Comment COREG and I'll send you the registration details.

❤️ Follow for honest conversations about autism, PDA, special needs parenting and the realities nobody prepares us for.

And please SHARE this with someone who needs to understand that different parenting doesn't automatically mean bad parenting.

Now tell me...
What's the most ridiculously unhelpful parenting advice you've ever been given? fans

17/10/2026

The amount of mental gymnastics some parents have to perform just to get through a normal fu***ng Tuesday. 😂💀

You’ve rehearsed the sentence in your head three times.

Considered your tone. Your timing. Your facial expression.

Decided NOT to ask a question because apparently that could be interpreted as a demand.

Offered help. Wrong move.

Didn’t offer help. ALSO WRONG MOVE.

And now you’re standing in the kitchen wondering whether even breathing is going to cause an international incident. 🫠

For parents raising autistic children, kids with a PDA profile (Pathological Demand Avoidance), or children who experience frequent nervous system dysregulation, everyday interactions can require an extraordinary amount of thought.

And here’s the part people don’t always understand.

Constantly anticipating your child’s reactions can have a massive impact on YOUR nervous system too.

The hypervigilance. The second-guessing. The physical tension. The feeling that you’re never quite able to switch off.

Sometimes you’re not even dealing with a meltdown.

You’re just trying to prevent the next one.

And that can be fu***ng exhausting.

❤️ I’m a special needs mum, somatic practitioner and carer advocate, and I talk about the realities of parenting that rarely make it into the glossy parenting advice.

Follow Jade Addicott | NDIS + Burnout Support for honest conversations, nervous system tools, PDA and autism parenting insights, and the occasional completely unhinged laugh at the s**t we deal with. 😂

Because sometimes you need practical support.

And sometimes you just need someone who fu***ng GETS IT.

17/10/2026

Good parenting advice should come with a fu***ng warning label. 😂💀

Because apparently offering choices, giving praise, asking questions and trying to help can all be considered CRIMINAL OFFENCES in some households.
And there you are, standing in your kitchen, mentally reviewing every word you’ve said in the last 10 minutes, wondering how the f**k you managed to make things worse AGAIN. 🫠

But here’s what I wish more parents understood.
Your child can be struggling with the exact same things you’re doing to try to HELP them.
For children who experience demand avoidance, sensory overwhelm or nervous system dysregulation, even the nicest, most well-intentioned interactions can sometimes feel like pressure.
And when you’re constantly trying to predict what might set things off?
YOUR nervous system starts feeling it too.
The second-guessing. The tension. The frustration. The feeling that you can’t get a single bloody thing right.
This is why understanding BOTH nervous systems matters so much.

Because we can spend all day learning how to support our children’s regulation while completely overlooking what’s happening inside our own bodies.

If you’re new here, hey legend 👋 I’m Jade and I’m a somatic practitioner (and a special need mum). I’m running a FREE PDA + CO-REGULATION WORKSHOP
with 2 live sessions on Monday 19 October at 12:30pm and 8:30pm AEDT.

And your child DOESN’T need a PDA diagnosis. This is for parents of children who struggle with dysregulation, including autistic children and kids with demand avoidance.

We’ll unpack what’s actually happening and practical ways to support BOTH of you.

👇 Comment COREG and I’ll send you the free registration details.

😂 Now I NEED to know...
What’s the most innocent thing you’ve ever said to your child that somehow turned into an absolute s**tshow?
Tag a parent who will understand this immediately, and SHARE this with someone who’s been questioning every parenting decision they’ve ever made.

❤️ Follow Jade Addicott | NDIS + Burnout Support for honest conversations about autism parenting, PDA, carer burnout and nervous system regulation.