08/06/2026
3 things I wish I did before trying to conceive in my 30s, from someone who teaches this for a living
Yes, really. Even I got this wrong.
1. I gaslit myself,and it cost me time
I spend my days advocating for women to push for answers, get more tests, seek second opinions. And yet when it came to my own body I minimised, I delayed, I told myself it was probably nothing.
I didn’t follow up. I didn’t push. And now I’m on the other side of a surgery that could have happened years ago if I had just applied to myself what I tell every woman who comes to me.
If something feels off, follow up. Don’t wait for someone to take you seriously. Be the person who takes yourself seriously first.
2. I tested my hormones but not enough.
Hormone testing is not a one and done. A single snapshot tells you so little. Your hormones fluctuate across your entire cycle and testing at different points, oestrogen, progesterone, LH, FSH, testosterone, tells a completely different story depending on where you are in that cycle.
3. I underestimated how much my nervous system needed support
This process is hard. Even when you know the science. Even when you have the tools. Even when it’s literally your job to understand this stuff.
I had to get really honest with myself about what was actually helping and what was keeping me stuck. And scrolling, comparing my journey to everyone else’s highlight reel, was not it.
Finding the tools that genuinely regulate my nervous system has been everything. Because a body that feels safe is a body that can move toward pregnancy.
Sharing this because if I, someone who does this work every day, can fall into these traps, I know you can too. And I don’t want you to lose time the way I did.
If you want to know where your preconception health actually stands right now, comment QUIZ and I’ll send you my free quiz. It might show you something worth knowing. 🌿