15/12/2020
Parents love giving their kids presents for Christmas but what happens when they give too much?â
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According to psychologist Dr Sean Grover, âToo many gifts can turn little darlings into ungrateful bullies who are never satisfied - no matter how much they get from their parents."â
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So before you go overboard and shower a child with Christmas gifts, Dr Grover says to consider these negative outcomes. â
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Too Many Gifts...â
Written by Dr Grover for âPsychology Todayâ
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1. Increases destructive behaviour.â
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Kids who engage in greedy gift grabbing during holidays suffer negative social and emotional ramifications that extend well beyond their childhood. According to a study from the University of Missouri, as adults, such children are more prone to credit-card debt, gambling, and compulsive shopping. Sure, unwrapping a mountain of gifts produces a burst of happinessâbut it has no staying power. Instead, it feeds an insatiable hunger for more.â
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2. Lowers self-esteem.â
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Lasting self-esteem is rooted in a strong sense of identityânot materialism. Excess does not equal increased self-worth. Studies have shown there is no correlation between material possessions and self-esteem or happiness. In fact, children who have fewer material possessions but positive relationships with parents and peers score higher on self-esteem assessment tests. They also have fewer behaviour problems and demonstrate more resilience in the face of obstacles than kids with overindulging parents.â
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3. Robs children of lasting happiness.â
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Researchers publishing in Harvardâs Journal of Happiness found that people valued gifts they purchased for others more than gifts they bought for themselves. And when those âgiversâ completed a personal satisfaction scale, they consistently scored higher than those who purchased gifts for themselves. Helping your child develop generosity fosters a healthy sense of interconnectedness and boosts personal happiness. Kids who only value receiving gifts are more likely to grow to be egocentric and lack empathy.â
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