15/05/2026
How open do you feel in your voice?
I asked this recently at an event of 30 - 40 people and not one person put their hand up! A a vocal coach I often had people mention they were blocked or stuck in their voice, but more recently I am realising this is an epidemic.
Whether it’s that someone told them to “shut up” as a child or told them “you can’t sing” or to be “seen and not heard”. Or maybe it was past life, where they would literally have been burned at the stake for using their voice, we all carry voice stories of varying degrees.
For me, I was very shy, debilitatingly shy as a child. I always loved to sing and write, but this was my private world. It wasn’t until my 20s when the pain of holding in my expression became bigger than the fear of letting it out that I began to shift things. But that doesn’t mean it was easy. I had to move through the fear not around it, I had to face the vulnerability until it wasn’t vulnerable anymore. And I did all of this without any idea about nervous system regulation. Upon reflection, I fought and flew my way through (fight or flight) and wondered why I kept burning out.
See if I could do my time again I would have been there for my fears, my body and my nervous system more. I would have brought it into safety time and time again as I began to tread on new scary territory with my voice. I would have shown my body and my younger parts inside that I was safe.
Since stepping onto this path of nervous system healing through tremoring, I have found that my body is more open, my voice is more free and I feel more joy rather than fear in letting out my expression.
When the body feels safe, authentic expression comes naturally. It is my favourite thing to help others reclaim their voice, their expression and their energetic space from a place of safety not pushing through or pushing down.
If this speaks to you feel free to reach out to me, I love talking about this stuff! 🌷🌷
