06/10/2026
“The behaviour got worse.”
That doesn’t automatically mean the strategy isn’t working.
Sometimes an increase in behaviour is telling us something important.
Here’s what I want to know 👇
🔄 What changed?
Was there a new boundary? A different response? A new expectation? Less access to something that previously worked?
🗣️ Does the new skill actually work for the person yet?
We can teach someone to ask for a break — but if escalation gets them out of a situation immediately and asking for a break doesn’t, which one is more effective?
🧠 Do they understand what’s expected?
A strategy that makes perfect sense to the adults around someone might make absolutely no sense to the person expected to use it.
⏱️ Did we expect too much, too quickly?
New communication, coping and regulation skills take time to become reliable.
⚠️ And importantly — are we seeing distress?
“Behaviour can increase” should NEVER become an excuse to ignore distress and simply push through.
Sometimes the strategy needs time.
Sometimes it needs adjusting.
And sometimes the increase in behaviour is telling us we’ve missed something entirely.
All three give us information.
Progress in behaviour support isn’t always a straight line.
So when someone says:
“The behaviour got worse.”
Before immediately asking, “Should we stop the strategy?”
Try asking:
“What is this telling us?”
Hey, I’m Julz 👋 Founder of Behaviour Bridge and Positive Behaviour Support Practitioner.
I share practical behaviour support strategies for families, support teams and professionals who want to understand what’s happening behind the behaviour.
📚 I’ve also created free behaviour support tools you can use right now — link in bio.