01/07/2026
🍃 ✨ What if so much of our fear simply comes from not understanding?
Lately I’ve found myself becoming really curious. I notice it on social media, I hear it in conversations, and there seem to be so many misconceptions and so much fear around energy healing. I completely understand why because if you’ve never experienced it, or you’ve only ever heard other people’s opinions, of course it’s going to seem strange or even frightening.
It’s interesting because if anyone actually knows me, they would never describe me as someone who’s really “woo-woo”. I do read energy, that’s a huge part of what I do, but I’m not constantly tuning into every person I walk past. I think that’s something people are genuinely afraid of, that somehow I’m reading them all the time, but do you know what? I actually close down when I’m out in public because I just don’t like all the energy. I’m incredibly empathic and sensitive, and if I allowed myself to feel everything around me all the time, it would become completely overwhelming, so over the years I’ve learnt to switch that off. That’s how I get to simply be present and enjoy my own life.
People are often really surprised when they come to my home. I think they expect something completely different, but what they usually comment on is how grounded it feels. It’s a space I’m incredibly protective of because I believe the environment you walk into is so important. Over the years, so many people have described it as feeling grounded, safe and welcoming, and I think that’s probably one of the biggest surprises for people. It isn’t what they expected at all. For me, it’s never been about creating something mysterious or “out there”. It’s about creating a space where people can simply exhale, feel safe, and allow themselves to be exactly as they are.
I was a police officer for 13 years, so I’m very analytical by nature. I’m a huge sceptic, and I still like spirit to show me things and prove things to me all the time. I still ask questions. I still want confirmation. I don’t just believe something because somebody tells me it’s true, and I think that’s probably one of the biggest surprises for people because they assume that if you do this work, you must just believe everything without questioning it. That’s never been me.
You know what’s really interesting? I don’t trust a lot of people to look after my energy either, so I totally get it. I think that’s probably why I understand the fear. Just because someone calls themselves an energy healer doesn’t automatically mean I’d book with them. I still ask questions. I still trust my intuition. I still pay attention to how I feel around people because I believe who you’re working with really matters.
Growing up, I had all the fears. I was incredibly sensitive, so I could feel everything, but I didn’t know how to shut it down. I didn’t have anybody mentoring me or explaining what I could or couldn’t do, so I learnt the really hard way. I went through some incredibly deep, dark emotions and experiences that genuinely scared the s**t out of me because I simply didn’t understand them. Looking back now, I realise that understanding changed everything. Through all these years of doing healings I’ve been confronted with a lot. I’ve experienced things that have felt incredibly dark, I’ve experienced things that have been incredibly beautiful, and through all of it I’ve personally always felt there has been protection. That’s my experience. Everybody has free will and everybody gets to choose what they believe. I’m never here to tell anyone what they should think. I can only ever share what I’ve experienced.
Over the years, I’ve had so many loved ones come into healings and share their stories with me. What still amazes me is how similar the patterns are and the symbolic ways they communicate. Sometimes they show me images, sometimes they bring through emotions, sometimes I physically feel things within my own body, and sometimes it’s simply an inner knowing that unfolds throughout the healing. Those experiences have profoundly changed the way I see life.
For me, they’ve shown me that there is so much more than what we can physically see. They’ve completely changed the way I look at life, death and healing, and they’ve brought me a deep sense of peace. I know not everyone will believe that, and that’s completely okay because everybody has free will and everybody gets to choose their own beliefs. I can only ever speak from my own experiences, but they’ve led me to believe that this lifetime is just one small part of our soul’s journey, not the whole story.
One of the greatest privileges of this work is witnessing what can happen when someone has that experience for themselves. Sometimes it’s through a message that resonates so deeply they instantly know who it’s from. Sometimes it’s a feeling they can’t quite explain. Sometimes it’s simply knowing that the love they thought they’d lost has never really gone. You can literally watch the heaviness begin to lift, and in its place comes peace, understanding and often a sense of closure. For me, that’s what it’s always been about. Every message, every insight and every experience that unfolds in a healing is never about proving anything. It’s always, and only ever, in the service of healing.
I also want people to know that I’m deeply human. I have feelings. I go through hard things just like everybody else, and healing days leave me absolutely exhausted, which is why I have to space my sessions out. But I do it because I genuinely love it. I love helping people. I love seeing the look on someone’s face when they finally have answers, when they receive the confirmation they’ve been searching for, and when the heaviness they’ve been carrying for years begins to lift, often without them even realising they were carrying it in the first place. That’s the part of this work that never gets old for me.
It also makes me wonder what people actually think happens when we die, and whether some of that fear comes from simply not understanding what they don’t yet know. For me, knowledge is power. The more I’ve understood my own experiences over the years, the less fear I’ve had. That doesn’t mean everyone has to believe what I believe, and that’s never my intention because everybody has free will and everybody gets to choose their own path.
I’d much rather someone ask me a hundred questions than make a decision based on fear or assumptions, because I know what it’s like to be frightened by something I didn’t understand. Maybe the conversation isn’t really about convincing anyone of anything. Maybe it’s simply about becoming curious enough to ask questions, staying open to learning, and allowing yourself the space to make up your own mind. If this post does nothing else, I hope it simply invites you to become curious. Because for me, curiosity has always been the doorway to understanding… and understanding has always been where the fear begins to dissolve. 🤍
