07/03/2025
A dear friend I met through loss invited me for coffee. She had something to share—something too important to text. Before she even spoke, I knew. She was having a baby. She had the most Devine baby bump.
She looked at me gently, choosing her words with care. She even apologised—not for her joy, but for not knowing how to tell me. Six years on since I lost Arlo but only 1 year of knowing me, she still held space for my grief, for the love I carry for Arlo, for the journey that shaped me.
But today, my heart is full. I am overjoyed for her.
We spoke for hours—about her fears, about Arlo, about how I survived pregnancy after loss and how she would too. I shared with her what I once needed to hear: that fear and joy can coexist, that grief and hope can walk hand in hand. That she is not alone.
I share this because there was a time when news like this would have felt bittersweet. A version of me would have been happy for her, but sad for me. But now? Now I am at peace. Growing my family is a chapter that has closed, and I do not wish to reopen it.
Life moves, grief evolves, love remains. And today, I celebrate her. I celebrate the gentle way she carried my heart in her hands as she shared her news. And I celebrate the woman I have become—one who can hold another’s joy without it echoing as loss.
To anyone still navigating these tender spaces, be kind to yourself. There is no wrong way to feel. In time, you will might find peace too.