19/05/2026
All you have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to you. Ouff this hit me hard
After Dad’s passing last year, and seeing so many close friends and family around me move through incomprehensible grief and challenges lately, I think it has made me reflect deeply on how many people are carrying so much internally while still trying to function through everyday life.
Of course people end up stuck in overthinking, survival mode, control, or mentally living five steps ahead sometimes. The nervous system adapts for a reason. When life feels uncertain, painful, overwhelming, or unsafe, the body learns to stay alert.
I see it in clinic all the time, and honestly, I see it in myself too.
I can still catch myself overthinking, trying to control outcomes, sweating small stuff, mentally rehearsing things, or getting caught living in the future instead of actually being in the moment I am in.
But in some of my darkest moments, I made promises to myself. That if I got through it, I would stop wasting so much energy on things that do not really matter. That I would slow down more. Be more present. Enjoy ordinary moments more. Actually appreciate being healthy enough to go for a walk, have a cuppa with someone I love, just laugh, or simply have a normal day.
Because grief changes your perspective very quickly.
It makes you realise how fragile life is. How precious health is. And how many people around us are carrying pain we cannot even see.
So lately I have been even more conscious of choosing differently. More gratitude. More presence. More kindness. More time actually living my life instead of mentally rehearsing it.
Not perfectly, because I still slip into old patterns too. But more intentionally.
Today I choose gratitude ❤️