04/09/2026
I LOVE MY LIFE. So why do I keep wondering ... IS THIS IT?
My Loves,
there is a question I think a lot of women are asking themselves, sometimes too bloody quietly!!
Because there's nothing actually 'wrong' as such
You've built a life.
Maybe you've raised the kids.
Maybe you're still raising them.
You've worked, loved, lost, paid bills, packed lunches, remembered birthdays, held relationships together, kept businesses running, looked after ageing parents, survived heartbreaks and probably reinvented yourself more times than anyone actually knows!
You have people you love.
You might have a beautiful home.
A career.
A partner.
Grandchildren .. I have 7!
Friends.
A pretty good life.
So why, every now and then, does this little voice creep in and ask...
Is this it? ←
And then almost immediately comes the guilt.
"What do you mean, is this it?
You should be grateful.
Look at everything you have.
There are people who would give anything for your life.
And yes.
You ARE grateful.
That's the part I think we need to talk about.
You can be deeply grateful for the life you've created and still feel the pull toward something more.
The two things CAN exist at the same time.
I know this because I've lived it.
I'm 52.
I've raised my children. I've built businesses. I've burned out. I've travelled the world. I've loved. I've lost.
I've been married and divorced.
I've created festivals, retreats and communities.
I'm a Nanny now .. which I might add is the greatest LOVE i've ever known.
So I've lived several lifetimes inside this one.
And still I've had seasons where I've had to look at myself and ask:
"Who the hell am I now?
Not who was I.
Not who does everybody else need me to be.
Not what title can I put underneath my name.
Who am I **now**?
I don't think this question means something has gone wrong.
Actually, I think it might mean something is going very right.
Because somewhere in our 40s, 50s and beyond, many women arrive at a really strange threshold.
The identities we've worn for decades begin to shift.
The children don't need us in the same way.
Our relationships change.
Our bodies change !!!
Our hormones certainly bloody change. 🔥
Careers that once mattered enormously can suddenly feel strangely hollow.
Friendships move.
Parents age.
Marriages sometimes end.
And even when none of those things happen, **we change**.
But here's the kicker.
Nobody really prepares women for that.
We talk about puberty.
We talk about getting married.
We talk about motherhood.
We talk endlessly about careers.
But where is the conversation about the woman who reaches the middle of her life and realises:
"I don't actually know if the life I've been living fits the woman I've become. ←
That isn't necessarily a crisis. In Fact I reckon it might actually be an invitation.
And no, I'm not suggesting you sell the house, leave your husband, buy a campervan and just take off ..
Unless that's your thing. Then have at it.
I'm talking about something far less dramatic and probably far more important.
→ Curiosity ←
When was the last time you became curious about yourself?
Not improved yourself.
Not fixed yourself.
Not lost five kilos.
Not downloaded another podcast telling you how to optimise your morning routine.
Just...
*What do I like now?*
*What do I want to learn?*
*Who do I want around me?*
*What makes me laugh?*
*What have I never tried?*
*What part of myself have I put away because there simply wasn't room for her?*
And maybe the biggest one...
**What would I choose if I stopped worrying about who I might disappoint?**
These are some of the conversations that have shaped Sistahood Rising for the past decade.
Not because I think women need fixing.
Goddess, no.
I think women need **places to explore**.
Places where nobody needs dinner from them.
Nobody needs the washing done.
Nobody needs an email answered.
Nobody needs them to have their s**t together.
Places where they can sit beside another woman and say:
*"Do you ever feel like...?"*
And before they've even finished the sentence, somebody says:
*"Oh my God. YES."*
That's Sistahood.
This year I've deliberately brought together women offering wildly different doorways into these conversations.
There are workshops around menopause and perimenopause. Boundaries. Self-trust. Nervous-system regulation. Embodiment. Beginning again. Creativity. Movement. Intuition. Leadership. Spirituality. Play.
Some will be deep.
Some will be practical.
Some will be a little woo woo.
Some will probably have you laughing your arse off.
Because there is no single answer to **Who am I now?**
And there shouldn't be, we all do life differently.
One woman might find something in a conversation about menopause.
Another might discover it dancing.
Another might sit in a workshop about boundaries and suddenly realise she's spent 30 years saying yes when she wanted to say no.
Another might make something with her hands.
Another might sit under a tree drinking tea with a woman she's known for approximately seventeen minutes and somehow tell her half her life story.
That's the magic of women gathering.
We remember ourselves in one another.
And maybe that's why that little voice asking **"Is this it?"** doesn't need to be silenced.
Maybe we need to listen to her.
Because perhaps she's not saying your life isn't enough.
Perhaps she's saying:
"Woman... there's more of YOU that wants to be lived."
And I reckon she's worth meeting.
Sistahood Rising - 10th Anniversary
13–15 November 2026
Fairbridge Village, Pinjarra WA
→ https://events.sistahoodrising.com/
Three days. Two nights. 60+ workshops. A few hundred women. Plenty of tea. A little mischief.
And absolutely no requirement to know who you're becoming before you arrive.
Come curious, my loves
We'll start there.
Trace xXx
